Etiquette question and widows at the wedding... HELP Delicate question...

princess99 Posted: Aug 17, 2003 09:12 AM

Etiquette question and widows at the wedding... HELP Delicate question...

Our wedding list is growing, a little too large and we have to cut back here and there, but there is a teacher that Fh works with and he is a young widow, with a 9 year old daughter. The only children that are going to be at he wedding are the FG and RB, we are afraid if we invite this person with a guest he will bring his 9 year old daughter, it is not like he will be the only single one there and he will know the whole table he is sitting with, some are single also. What do we do? What happens if he asks to bring a guest and it is his daughter? HELP!

p&a91203 Posted: Aug 17, 2003 11:09 AM

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I wouldn't think he would bring his 9 y/o daughter but hey- you never know!
Is there anyway you can slip, somewhere on/in the invitation, that it is an adult only reception? Just a thought!

Xelindrya Posted: Aug 17, 2003 11:14 AM

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I agree. He probably won't bring his daughter. The safest action is to mention something about adult only receptiton. Even something like, due to limited seating this is an adult only reception.

aliciahelene Posted: Aug 17, 2003 11:15 AM

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I just received an invitation to a friends wedding and it said adult reception only. Its a nice way to say NO CHILDREN!! That guy may even want a night out..he can get a sitter!! He may enjoy that!!

Nora101004 Posted: Aug 17, 2003 07:57 PM

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I don't think he would but if he does- hey- good for you--- a half price dinner. Kids are cheaper, right?

The Original 2nd-time-around Posted: Aug 17, 2003 07:58 PM

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If it were me, given the situation, I'd let it slide.
JMO

karen32 Posted: Aug 17, 2003 08:27 PM

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can't you just address the invite to him and not '& guest' especially since your guest list is so large??

i doubt too many men would want to bring a 9 year old to a wedding. i wouldn't sweat it too much given his situation.

good luck!!!

SeptemberBride03 Posted: Aug 18, 2003 03:33 PM

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If you are inviting the other coworkers '& guest' then I'd invite him that way also. Look at it this way - his daughter would be 1/2 price!

xjulietx Posted: Aug 18, 2003 03:39 PM

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Have you met the 9 year old daughter? She may be a quiet and polite young girl who knows how to behave in social situations. IF he chooses to bring her, the adult guests might not even know she was there. It's the annoying kids that I don't want (but how do you say that to your guests?)