Etiquette questions! - oops- kinda long...sorry

Ladies...I know you all can help me.

Here goes. A childhood friend of mine is getting married in July. We grew up on the same block (and BOTH still live there) and though we were very close in childhood, we eventually grew to just casual acquaitences, though both of our sisters married into the same family.

So, I was invited to both the shower and the wedding. I definitely don't mind going at all, but FH doesn't know her and DOES NOT want to go. He said I can go w/o him . He is under the impression ( and this will sound horrible, but we have been fleeced this past month with gift giving) that if I go by myself that we can get away with giving a smaller gift. Normally he is not like this, but he doesn't know them at all really (met the bride only a few times- he knows her younger sister better) and I don't even know the groom...anyway, is that true? Can I get away with giving a smaller gift if I go solo? I will also be getting her a gift from the registry.

The other thing is- like I said our sisters married into the same family, and both FH and I are closer to younger sister. We would like to invite them to our wedding, but we really can't invite anyone else, which I think will upset the older, less known, sister.

1) Is it wrong to go to her wedding knowing I will probably not be able to invite her to mine?

2) can I invite her younger sister and not her?

Help ladies...I am in trouble. (bridal shower is Saturday)

TIA

You're not going to like my responses, but here ya go

1) Is it wrong to go to her wedding knowing I will probably not be able to invite her to mine?YES!!!

2) can I invite her younger sister and not her?
If she married into your family, then yes you should invite.

Also, tell your FI that he should go and not to worry soooo much about the gift. If you were childhood friends and you know her sister very well, I say you should go. If he is being that stubborn, then invite a friend or go solo

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Posted by Kerrycec

You're not going to like my responses, but here ya go

1) Is it wrong to go to her wedding knowing I will probably not be able to invite her to mine?YES!!!

2) can I invite her younger sister and not her?
If she married into your family, then yes you should invite.

Also, tell your FI that he should go and not to worry soooo much about the gift. If you were childhood friends and you know her sister very well, I say you should go. If he is being that stubborn, then invite a friend or go solo

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I think your responses are fine, I just wonder WHY exactly is it wrong to go to her wedding. I am sometimes dense with these things.

Thanks

I have to say I agree with Kerrycec...100% .....sorry

Why cant he go to the wedding? You dont necessarily have to know a ton of people... one of FH's fraternity brothers got married and i only knew the groom and 2 friends- all single guys- hey i didnt have the greatest time, but i went to be with FH and because he wanted me there- did i want to go,.. well not really but i did

i would invite them to them wedding- i know it can add up- but you still see them, youre inviting the sister- you grew up with them- its only 2 more people (even though i do realize that 2 here and then 2 there- adds up)

good luck- youre in a tough situation