evil FSIL...should i cut her from the BP??

So, should I fire her as a bridesmaid??? I never wanted her as one anyway...I only asked her because I knew FH wanted me to do it. I am ok with the #s being off at this point if it means that I don't have to pretend to love and adore her on MY wedding day....why should I have someone up there that I do not feel actually supports me??? GRRRR. Recently, when she was home for FBIL's Police Academy graduation, I walked in a room with his girlfriend...FSIL has the nerve to say hey to her and not me!!! She does this sort of thing all the time...it makes me think to myself 'clearly you hate me, just admit it.'

And how do I do it without being made out as the evil villian in all of this?? I mean, she has underminded (sp?) every aspect of our wedding plans from the dress to the veil issue (I refuse to wear a veil...and yes, I even tried one on and hated it). She hates the BM dress, she hates my dress, she doesn't like the flower choices, she doesn't think it should be at the swan club, she just hates it all. I bet she could find a problem with our honeymoon if we bothered to share that information with her. Her opinions mean squat to me as she seems to be the ONLY one making these comments so I can overlook them...but she brings out this hostility in me that is actually NOT like me at all.

I don't think that I need her in the bridal suite with me telling me that my eye shadow is ugly or standing up there next to me thinking of how ugly my bouquet is...nor do I really want her receiving any attention at all that day. I mean honestly, if she were to NOT show up, I wouldn't cry...I wouldn't bat an eye...I'd go on about my special day and be just fine.

Any advice is appreciated...I mean, given our history...I just don't think I should count on her to behave and be the sister she tries to claim she is.