Ex-boyfriends and weddings

Original post by FutureMrsLMS

Nov 04, 2009 02:49 PM

ok anyone actually inviting former ex-boyfriends or guys they sorta dated but ended up just being friends with and now you feel ackward and considering inviting them to the wedding? I had 1 guy I dated who invited himself to my wedding (he's not invited!) and said he was devastated that I won't be single anymore!! lol.

Just curious what you gals have done w/ this scenario...do you include or exclude? what if they were already hitched to someone else, would you change your mind?

whtevjenny Posted: Nov 05, 2009 08:24 AM

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Posted by HurricaneGirl

I'm having like, 4 at my wedding, but only the ones that I'm actually friends with, not the ones that are gonna try to stop the wedding.

But he can't invite his ex. Maybe I wouldn't mind so much if she didn't post stuff like 'how about a little game of yes doctor?' on his myspace. B*itch.

yeah f*ck that.

ourwedding9510 Posted: Nov 05, 2009 08:44 AM

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I'm not inviting any of my exes. I feel bad because I'm actually still close with one of them but FH doesn't feel right about it. If your FH doesn't mind and you don't mind, then I say go for it. But if it doesn't feel right, then explain to him there are too many people already and you're sorry. I actually explained the situation to my ex on why he can't be invited and he told me he understood and respects it.

DMLHeartsCRM Posted: Nov 05, 2009 09:12 AM

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So after laughing abou tthis topic and my reply before...bc one of the exes is my FBIL so I dont really have a choice in that matter. But the FH brought it to my attention that he did invite two of his exes. I've met one but i didnt know he actually dated her. Kick to my face.....So after much protest and fighting and threatening to call it off...He mentioned how he has to invite his brother so if i can have an ex im friends with there...he can have one....jerk.....Im making damn sure that the objections line is being removed.

Scarpak Posted: Nov 05, 2009 10:15 AM

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I am inviting one, but only because we dating a long time ago and we are very close friends now. FH isnt inviting any.

runnerbride1023 Posted: Nov 05, 2009 10:48 AM

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I wouldn't call him an ex- but definitely a guy I used to hook up with (in highschool 8 years ago). The only reason is because he is friends with FH -- thats actually how I met FH.

We were invited to his and it wasn't weird. I always forget we used to hook up anyways

debzy Posted: Nov 05, 2009 11:28 AM

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An ex is an ex for a reason. I don't see why someone getting married would still be in contact with men from their past. So my answer is, No, I did not invite any exes to our wedding - and neither did my husband.

Im_My_Own_Princess Posted: Nov 05, 2009 11:48 AM

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it really depends, I have an ex that I dated back in middle school AND high school and 'hung out with' right before I met FH.. he's like my BFF and he's pretty good friends with FH (he wanted to put him in the BP, but I said no). like situations like that, I mean, he's a FRIEND of both of ours...
but like other ex's that FH never met, or met once or twice and didn't get a good feel for... then no.

Iluvpoodles Posted: Nov 05, 2009 11:50 AM

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Defentially no. But then again FH my first serious BF. Even if I did have other serious BF's I would no way be inviting them.

regy_k Posted: Nov 05, 2009 12:31 PM

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Posted by debzy

An ex is an ex for a reason. I don't see why someone getting married would still be in contact with men from their past. So my answer is, No, I did not invite any exes to our wedding - and neither did my husband.

there are different situations where 'ex is an ex' doesnt apply. life isnt that black and white. we could only wish it was, would be so much simpler and nicer.

we already invited FH's ex. they have a daughter together, and IMO it made sense to invite her. I am actually looking fwd to meeting her and their daughter.
not weird for me at all.

JessNicole7EM Posted: Nov 05, 2009 12:56 PM

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I'm inviting 1 ex and one guy I had previously hooked up with. They're my friends. They're FH's friends.

I don't see the problem with it.

stephanienyc2002 Posted: Nov 05, 2009 03:35 PM

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play it safe. don't invite.

FutureMrsLMS Posted: Nov 05, 2009 04:23 PM

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Wow, I just love all the different responses my question elicited!! And it wasn't even a ***QOTD**!!! LOL..

dee1984 Posted: Nov 05, 2009 04:26 PM

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I'm inviting one ex. We were good friends before we dated, and have since been friends since we decided to call it quits. Honestly, I feel like it would be more awkward to not invite him then to.

MrsDR2010 Posted: Nov 05, 2009 11:14 PM

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Posted by whtevjenny

Posted by princessSDG

OH NOOOOOOOOOOOO!!! I would never do that. What if the pastor/officiant asks 'If anyone has any just cause why these two should not get married and they say some crap to stop them' By right pastors and priests have to stop and in some cases depending on what they say they cannot continue the wedding.

LOL don't worry about this. My pastor said they don't even say this anymore. At least they're not at my wedding haha.

I guess it depends on the pastor. I know n\mine does.