He got on my last nerve this morning with once again wanting to cancel an appointment tonight. Yes, I've heard over and over from him again that we have over a year and we're not getting married until May 2010 but I have been the one to book every appointment we have and also find every frigin vendor. I made an appt last week to go meet with photographers tonight and scheduled one Friday. too Now I get this morning, I don't want to go I want to go home tonight. I told him he was going home tonight anyway, he wasn't staying over again. He knows I do not like going to a ton of places over the weekend since I'm very busy with school work but tells me to reschedule until this weekend. I'm not changing any appts and am gonna tell him to call all 3 places we've scheduled with and change them himself.
Mine thinks I am crazy for looking so early so he sometimes gets grumpy about visiting vendors...it really annoys me but I make him go anyway so whatever
stinenandy2010
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Don't worry, my FH isn't really into the whole planning thing...if he wants to come he is more then welcome but if not, I don't really take offense to it b/c I know a lot of guys out there aren't really into it.
Maybe you can go with your mom or moh??
Jen2525
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aw i think at first mine didn't want to book things early until a place we had first choice on was booked on our date......Then we booked everthing right away
Jna2010
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i used to get every excuse from A to Z so fh could get out of going to appts with me, so i just dont force him anymore lol sometimes he comes others he doesnt just try not to let it get you down
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Posted by stinenandy2010
Don't worry, my FH isn't really into the whole planning thing...if he wants to come he is more then welcome but if not, I don't really take offense to it b/c I know a lot of guys out there aren't really into it.
Maybe you can go with your mom or moh??
I agree w/ Christine, if he is not into it then ask someone else to come with you and then jsut let him know who you liked, if he wants he can come w/ you again to the 'final decision' vendor
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You know what, FH was like that at first saying that I had over a year to book things. But when I told him that girls were booking early coz they were finding out that good vendors were booking up now for events being held after my wedding date, he said well you do what you need to do. So I booked all the major vendors, with the exception of the RH, without FH. He works two jobs so his time is very limited, so it worked out best for me to go on my own.
Jen84
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that happens with me too... he's actually been pretty good at coming places with me but i think he's getting a little annoyed with it... i actually have 2 photo appts today but i'm going with my mom, and then when i decide on the top 2 or 3 then i'll bring him to check them out... could you do that? go to all the places with your mom or a friend and then bring him when you decide on your top choices?
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maybe try to space things out?? when FH and I did too many things in one weekend...he would lose his patience and get cranky lol....now when making the appts we spread them out and this way he (and I) look forward to it..
i hope this helps!
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i would keep the app. and just go without him bring someone with and once you know who you want booked then bring your Fh with you and tell him your keeping that app. and he will meet with the vendors then it maybe over a year but it goes really fast we got engaged in July 08 and my FH already cannt believe its less then a year i just have photo and viedo to book and i just may the app last night and with my crazy schedule it was hard to get the app i wanted !!!
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its like that at the beginning mine was like that every time i made an appointment there was a rescheduled at the end!! we used to argue a lot but then i figured it wasn't worth it so we work around each of our schedules! now he is very interested in the wedding!! he has been making appointments himself! don't worry he'll do something wedding related eventually! but some men! just don't like these appointment things but that doesn't mean they are not interested! don't worry it will all work out
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MarjorieFrank
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I would still go to the appointment, maybe with someone else. Sorry!!
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Posted by stinenandy2010
Don't worry, my FH isn't really into the whole planning thing...if he wants to come he is more then welcome but if not, I don't really take offense to it b/c I know a lot of guys out there aren't really into it.
Maybe you can go with your mom or moh??
Ditto, mine is the same way, he was into the RH (which we only looked at 3 JT was the first and we would have stopped there but I had to please my parents...) and the DJ.... he is done now.... I don't mind it's just how some guys are
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He was good with booking the RH and even called himself about the DJ but seems really uninterested with the photography. I already canceled todays and have one for Friday right by my job so I think I'll just go to that myself like everyone said and if I really like the place bring him back for the final booking. Oh well..
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I really think that you have to pick and choose your battles. I learned this the hard way!! My advice to you is to view vendors yourself/with a friend then..after you have narrowed your search...take FH along to help make the final decision. Also, figure out what is most important to you and what you REALLY want him a part of. I decided that I would really like FH t be a part of choosing the reception hall and photos. He then said he wanted to pick out the limos. It seems like your wedding is around the time of mine. I am taking my time with booking things but just keeping my eyes open and getting quotes. We have our reception, church and photos booked and are tackling the DJ next. Its nice to get started early because then you have more time to look around and less stress to finalize something. Good luck!!
