family

Posted by lvain90

In 8 months my fiance' and I are getting married. On Feb 28 2004 we had our engagement party and we all had blast. His parents are divorced his parents remarried but his parents talk but the father is still married to his wife. His mother, her husband let her and his half sister. His father was married to his wife about twenty years and had also a son. He was 8 years old when his father got married and his parents separted when he was 3/4 years old But my question is his father just past away a week ago. How do I respect his step mother, she never called my fiance when his father was in the hospital over the years and also this time. His half brother called him when he past away and the three of them went into the hospital. When we would go over there for dinner she will not sit at the dinner table with us. About 10 years old ago my Fiance mother went upstate to live he ask his father to live with him until he found a place to live he was 19 years old at the time. She didn't want him to live there. Now that he past away I want to respect his father for that is his wife I don't want to hurt anyone feelings How can I have her help in the wedding planning and at the wedding i haven't book anything yet i had to cancel all our appointment this past weekend and this week that we had. Can someone help me out with this.

Okay, so it sounds like your FI's father's wife has been disrespectful of your FI and doesn't like him. I would ask him what his feelings are about her, but DO NOT feel obligated to involve this woman in *any* way. You make your wedding decisions on your own, maybe do something on the invites indicating that your FI's father has died or something, also make a mention in the programs, but you don't owe this lady anything. Be polite, but don't involve her at all.

So sorry about your situtation.