Family drama: Would you say something? Very long...
I'll try to make this short but it is a really long story.
My cousin with whom I am very close is currently PG (with her 3rd) and engaged to this guy 'Joe' that she supposedly met when she moved to Florida in June of 2004. She is due a few weeks after me. (Thaaaat's right).
She was a BM in my wedding and her move to Florida last year was VERY sudden. She had a BF here who she was deeply 'in love' with after knowing him for only a couple of months. This BF - we'll call him 'Junior' - was an Ex con. He was recently released and on probation and she truly believed that he wanted to turn his life around and trying to get on track to a clean start. She wanted to introduce him to the family and really wanted us to give him a chance.
This is where you need a little more background. My cousin (let's call her Mary) doesn't have the best taste in men. The father of her other 2 children is currently in jail also.![]()
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So for her to want to introduce her BF to the family was a big deal because she knows we are all SUPER critical of them and I was willing to give this new guy a chance.
Anyway, I never got the chance to meet him. Not three months out of jail and he got into a barfight and 'allegedly' stabbed someone and was then on the run. Mary swore he didn't do it, but nevertheless claimed she wouldn't see him ever again. But everyone in her neighborhood believed he did it and so she was being harassed for having been with him, things started getting really difficult for her here and she decided to suddenly up and move to florida to 'start over'.
Two months after moving to florida she is already living with 'some guy' she met. Now she is engaged to him and having his baby. I thought to myself... okaaayyy she moves a little fast, but whatever, of course I'll give this guy a chance.
Come to find out this past weekend that supposedly this guy she is engaged to also has 'legal problems' which sound aalll too familiar. Basically, we suspect that Joe and Junior are one in the same, that she actually moved to florida to be with Junior and none of us would ever be the wiser because we never met him. Also since she always referred to him by his nickname 'junior' we never knew his real name and she could just have started calling him by his real name. There are many more reasons why we think this the same guy but if I'll be writing forever if I try to explain.
Suffice it to say that we are pretty sure it's the same criminal she is now having a kid with and she's been lying to us all for the past year. The question (finally) then is -- would you say anything to her? Confront her about it? Or stay quiet and let her come clean (if she EVER decides to)?? I met the florida guy and of course I gave him a chance. However, if I knew that it was Junior to begin with, I (and the rest of the family) would never have accepted him which is why she probably lied. Also, this would not be the first time she told a giant lie like this.
I find it really insulting that she thinks we are all so dumb and just lies to us like this...
My cousin with whom I am very close is currently PG (with her 3rd) and engaged to this guy 'Joe' that she supposedly met when she moved to Florida in June of 2004. She is due a few weeks after me. (Thaaaat's right).
She was a BM in my wedding and her move to Florida last year was VERY sudden. She had a BF here who she was deeply 'in love' with after knowing him for only a couple of months. This BF - we'll call him 'Junior' - was an Ex con. He was recently released and on probation and she truly believed that he wanted to turn his life around and trying to get on track to a clean start. She wanted to introduce him to the family and really wanted us to give him a chance.
This is where you need a little more background. My cousin (let's call her Mary) doesn't have the best taste in men. The father of her other 2 children is currently in jail also.
Anyway, I never got the chance to meet him. Not three months out of jail and he got into a barfight and 'allegedly' stabbed someone and was then on the run. Mary swore he didn't do it, but nevertheless claimed she wouldn't see him ever again. But everyone in her neighborhood believed he did it and so she was being harassed for having been with him, things started getting really difficult for her here and she decided to suddenly up and move to florida to 'start over'.
Two months after moving to florida she is already living with 'some guy' she met. Now she is engaged to him and having his baby. I thought to myself... okaaayyy she moves a little fast, but whatever, of course I'll give this guy a chance.
Come to find out this past weekend that supposedly this guy she is engaged to also has 'legal problems' which sound aalll too familiar. Basically, we suspect that Joe and Junior are one in the same, that she actually moved to florida to be with Junior and none of us would ever be the wiser because we never met him. Also since she always referred to him by his nickname 'junior' we never knew his real name and she could just have started calling him by his real name. There are many more reasons why we think this the same guy but if I'll be writing forever if I try to explain.
Suffice it to say that we are pretty sure it's the same criminal she is now having a kid with and she's been lying to us all for the past year. The question (finally) then is -- would you say anything to her? Confront her about it? Or stay quiet and let her come clean (if she EVER decides to)?? I met the florida guy and of course I gave him a chance. However, if I knew that it was Junior to begin with, I (and the rest of the family) would never have accepted him which is why she probably lied. Also, this would not be the first time she told a giant lie like this.
I find it really insulting that she thinks we are all so dumb and just lies to us like this...
