Family Pettiness/Drama

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Posted by krislee316

did u have a shower in 2000??

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I did. Me and my ex fiancee didn't get married. Things ended really badly with him. He pretty much threw me out of the house and he kept all the gifts from the shower.

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Posted by squeekietoy

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Posted by krislee316

did u have a shower in 2000??

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I did. Me and my ex fiancee didn't get married. Things ended really badly with him. He pretty much threw me out of the house and he kept all the gifts from the shower.

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they do realize that was 8 years ago - even if you did get married - people who get married a 2nd time have showers....

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Posted by Soon2BMrsC09

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Posted by squeekietoy

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Posted by krislee316

did u have a shower in 2000??

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I did. Me and my ex fiancee didn't get married. Things ended really badly with him. He pretty much threw me out of the house and he kept all the gifts from the shower.

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they do realize that was 8 years ago - even if you did get married - people who get married a 2nd time have showers....

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I realize that and you realize that. Lots of people realize that. But apparently we're not dealing with rational people here. I sat in my Aunt's kitchen a few months ago and she told me 'I don't know why you would even bother having a shower. Nobody would give you gifts. They're still pissed off that you never got married the first time.' Uhm, ok.

wow well that is really messed up since it was 8 yrs ago and its not the same FH then of course u should have a shower......think of it this way if a woman waited 8 yrs between having her next child most of the time u give another shower at least thats what we are doing in my family

either way u should not be peanalized if they dont want to buy u something they should at least come to celebrate your happy event

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Posted by MrsDtoBe09

Are they against throwing it or giving gifts or both?

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I'm not really sure. My mom told me she wasn't throwing me a shower. She didn't say she wasn't going to give me a gift.

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Posted by squeekietoy

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Posted by MrsDtoBe09

Are they against throwing it or giving gifts or both?

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I'm not really sure. My mom told me she wasn't throwing me a shower. She didn't say she wasn't going to give me a gift.

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I cant imagine that they wouldnt buy u something are u close with ur family?

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Posted by krislee316

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Posted by squeekietoy

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Posted by MrsDtoBe09

Are they against throwing it or giving gifts or both?

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I'm not really sure. My mom told me she wasn't throwing me a shower. She didn't say she wasn't going to give me a gift.

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I cant imagine that they wouldnt buy u something are u close with ur family?

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Close enough. I don't see them everyday. My extended family I'm not so close with.

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Posted by squeekietoy

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Posted by Soon2BMrsC09

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Posted by squeekietoy

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Posted by krislee316

did u have a shower in 2000??

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I did. Me and my ex fiancee didn't get married. Things ended really badly with him. He pretty much threw me out of the house and he kept all the gifts from the shower.

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they do realize that was 8 years ago - even if you did get married - people who get married a 2nd time have showers....

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I realize that and you realize that. Lots of people realize that. But apparently we're not dealing with rational people here. I sat in my Aunt's kitchen a few months ago and she told me 'I don't know why you would even bother having a shower. Nobody would give you gifts. They're still pissed off that you never got married the first time.' Uhm, ok.

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Im so sorry that you have to deal with this. Sometimes people in our lives that we are close with - can be very unpredictable ... I am sure whether they come/give you a gift or not, even though it will hurt, your FHs family will have a fantastic shower with you - and I am sure that would make your family feel like sh!t to know how good his family is treating you and how bad they are going to look...

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Posted by Soon2BMrsC09

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Posted by squeekietoy

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Posted by Soon2BMrsC09

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Posted by squeekietoy

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Posted by krislee316

did u have a shower in 2000??

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I did. Me and my ex fiancee didn't get married. Things ended really badly with him. He pretty much threw me out of the house and he kept all the gifts from the shower.

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they do realize that was 8 years ago - even if you did get married - people who get married a 2nd time have showers....

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I realize that and you realize that. Lots of people realize that. But apparently we're not dealing with rational people here. I sat in my Aunt's kitchen a few months ago and she told me 'I don't know why you would even bother having a shower. Nobody would give you gifts. They're still pissed off that you never got married the first time.' Uhm, ok.

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Im so sorry that you have to deal with this. Sometimes people in our lives that we are close with - can be very unpredictable ... I am sure whether they come/give you a gift or not, even though it will hurt, your FHs family will have a fantastic shower with you - and I am sure that would make your family feel like sh!t to know how good his family is treating you and how bad they are going to look...

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I've realized this after my FH's parent's gave us a huge down payment for our RH and my parents have given us nothing towards the wedding. I guess they're just not interested. I love my parents, but, at this stage in my life I've come to accept them for who they are. Sometimes they just aren't interested. My younger sister is getting married 2 months after I am and they are more wrapped up in her wedding.

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Posted by squeekietoy

I've realized this after my FH's parent's gave us a huge down payment for our RH and my parents have given us nothing towards the wedding. I guess they're just not interested. I love my parents, but, at this stage in my life I've come to accept them for who they are. Sometimes they just aren't interested. My younger sister is getting married 2 months after I am and they are more wrapped up in her wedding.

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Posted by bluegreen08

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Posted by squeekietoy

I've realized this after my FH's parent's gave us a huge down payment for our RH and my parents have given us nothing towards the wedding. I guess they're just not interested. I love my parents, but, at this stage in my life I've come to accept them for who they are. Sometimes they just aren't interested. My younger sister is getting married 2 months after I am and they are more wrapped up in her wedding.

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Hehe. Thanks. <3 you girls.

this whole sitiuation s u ck s I am so sorry u have to deal with this

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Posted by krislee316

this whole sitiuation s u ck s I am so sorry u have to deal with this

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Thanks. At this point I just hope the people from my side come to the wedding. I have a guarantee to meet.

People are pissed that you didn't get married??? ***?????? They should be happy that you didn't make the worst mistake of your life. Keep your head up. Don't let them get you down.