Okay here is the deal. On my fathers side, I'm the second and last girl out of the grandchildren. My cousin Cindy who is a 11 yrs older than I'm is a major drug addict, who has never been married and doesn't have any children (thank goodness.) Shes hardcore, 3 DUIs in six yrs, every drug in the book, and shes been doing this since she was 14 yrs old. Well I was keeping my engagment a secert for a little while, but then my father called me up and told me that my cousin is telling my very much in denail grandfather that I'm hanging out with a bad crowd of people. My grandfather was buying this, because he hardly knows me. The reason why she is doing this is because she wants to get the old jewuraly that belonged to my greatgrandmother to sell for drugs. Now I'm having an engagement party and I told my grandfather that I'm having an engagement party and he said he would come up from FLorida, but he mentioned he would take my druggie cousin and her mother who hates me with him. I don't want her there because she'll get drunk, get high and act up in front of my friends and inlaws. If I tell my grandfather I don't want her there, he'll throw a fit and tell me that I shouldn't get married because I still dont' understand the meaning of family. What do I do?????
jersee3380
Posted:
Member since
Re: Family trouble!
i think it comes down to what YOU want. maybe, to keep peace, invite her w/ 'rules' or ask that she behave, or have someone 'babysit'. i'm sure it's the last thing you want to think about that day and its awful to have to put a burden on others. does the rest of your family know her 'acts' ?
EmberLynn
Posted:
Member since
Re: Family trouble!
there is something else, my grandfather told her several yrs ago that whichever one of us gets married first will get the jewurly. I personally don't care. I even said it should also go to my brother and two male cousins, not just to one of us. So she will do whatever she can to reck the party. My grandfather is in denial, her mother hates because I'm a female heir, and the rest of the family is afarid of her because when shes drunk, she is very strong. I hate the fact I'm related to her!
May05Bride
Posted:
Member since
Re: Family trouble!
The situation definately sounds complicated. If it were me, I would invite her to the engagement - because she is family, though troubled. If things start to get out of hand, you can always have her 'removed' from the party. That way your grandfather will see once again that your cousin needs help and maybe would be an additional person that will see something has to be done to help her. The restaurant has bouncers, and with the help of the family I am sure things can be controlled if they get out of it.
I don't think YOU should be embarassed, you can't control people at your family. I think FILs will understand that.
