Favors...
Initially our favors were going to be the 'Loving Spoonfuls' measuring spoons with a heart cookie cutter and a recipe for FH's favorite cookies.
Then I decided to do a 'message in a bottle' with a donation scroll since I have lost so many of my family in the last few years. My sisters LOVED the idea, but I kind of felt 'disappointed' not to do a traditional favor.
I said this to my boss and as a result he contributed a huge chunk of money to Susan G. Koman, ADA and ACS as an engagement gift in memory of my sister, my father and my mother. He told me that he wanted me to do a favor that I liked without feeling any undue pressure.
I thought that was very sweet and told my sister that I am back to the spoons idea. She said that it was very selfish of me NOT to do the donations anyway. But to be honest... the donation that I would make would not be anywhere NEAR a significant amount! And the spoons would still be a less expensive route to go...
Am I being selfish by not doing the donation?
ETA: My sisters and I already contribute to each of these foundations on the birth and death anniversaries of our mother (this will be the first year), father and sister - about $300 a year to each.
Then I decided to do a 'message in a bottle' with a donation scroll since I have lost so many of my family in the last few years. My sisters LOVED the idea, but I kind of felt 'disappointed' not to do a traditional favor.
I said this to my boss and as a result he contributed a huge chunk of money to Susan G. Koman, ADA and ACS as an engagement gift in memory of my sister, my father and my mother. He told me that he wanted me to do a favor that I liked without feeling any undue pressure.
I thought that was very sweet and told my sister that I am back to the spoons idea. She said that it was very selfish of me NOT to do the donations anyway. But to be honest... the donation that I would make would not be anywhere NEAR a significant amount! And the spoons would still be a less expensive route to go...
Am I being selfish by not doing the donation?
ETA: My sisters and I already contribute to each of these foundations on the birth and death anniversaries of our mother (this will be the first year), father and sister - about $300 a year to each.
