Since we got engaged (September), he had made mention to his brother who is his BM and his friends who are his groomsmen that he wanted to go to Vegas for his bachelor party. They were all for it..and now that we are getting closer to the day..they are complaining about $$ and not being able to take time off. Mind you they have only known about what he wanted to do for 9 months! They actually had the nerve to tell him why would you want to go to Vegas when we have so many things (strip clubs) that we can go to here. He made it clear that he did not want to do that..but they are making it into what they want to do, instead of who it should be about..HIM! He said he didn't want to have to plan his own BP but if he had to he will. I don't understand why people are like that! SELFISH! It's one thing if you can't afford it..then say that..but they ALL can!!
CLMon7906
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maybe they can't. flights alone to vegas are pricey and then they all have to take time off to go. that stuff adds up. in one week last year we spent nearly $2k to attend 2 weddings from the BP that FH had to throw for one and the tuxes, gifts and flights. it wasn't fun spending that money even if it was for such a great reason...our pockets were hurting.
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That would be perfectly understandable if they would just say that..but they haven't..and as I said before, they were all for it in the beginning. If things have changed, then say that..but from what I gather....doesnt' sound like they can't afford it....because they were talking about doing a lot more than just going to a strip club..and we all know they spend money there. Granted it may not be as much as they would spend to go to Vegas..but it's money none the less. I personally think his friends are being cheap because it's not what they want to do. If you have money to throw away on some trashy girl dancing..and go to a club or a/c or whatever..then you have money for other things as well!
Mitabtrfly
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I'm just going to talk to FH's brother and tell him I'll pay for whatever he wants to do..if his so called friends don't come through for him. He deserves it!
LaurenluvsTJ
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Can't they do something else? Going to vegas IS an expensive BP!
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Posted by LaurenluvsTJ
Can't they do something else? Going to vegas IS an expensive BP!
Right, and now being that it's short notice it's probably even more pricey. I would say AC but who knows how long it's going to be closed. Maybe they can do a night out in the city, or something of the nature.
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well, i just looked up flights alone to vegas in september...they start at 324 (but that leaves at 6am on a friday and it's a 'long' flight) and goes up to over 800. you figure all those guys pay 300+ just for the ticket and a 150+/night hotel and easily just to BE THERE they've spent over 600 then they still have to take your FH out. and are they expected to foot his portion of the flying and hotel? that all adds up very quickly...when for the cost of gas in a couple cars or a few train tickets they are in the city or AC and will have more money to take someone out on their tab...they could even get a limo from all the savings on airfare...it's very likely that they want to give him a good time that is easily afforded by all and enjoyable as well.
my FBIL wanted to do vegas for FH until he realized how $$$ it was going to be as he'd have to pay for himself, get 15 guys to ante up the funds to go, everyone take at least 1 day off from work and foot FH's portion....the cost per person became astronomical. a good job doesn't always mean plenty to spend and not everyone wants to say 'I'm broke.'
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Posted by CLMon7906
well, i just looked up flights alone to vegas in september...they start at 324 (but that leaves at 6am on a friday and it's a 'long' flight) and goes up to over 800. you figure all those guys pay 300+ just for the ticket and a 150+/night hotel and easily just to BE THERE they've spent over 600 then they still have to take your FH out. and are they expected to foot his portion of the flying and hotel? that all adds up very quickly...when for the cost of gas in a couple cars or a few train tickets they are in the city or AC and will have more money to take someone out on their tab...they could even get a limo from all the savings on airfare...it's very likely that they want to give him a good time that is easily afforded by all and enjoyable as well.
my FBIL wanted to do vegas for FH until he realized how $$$ it was going to be as he'd have to pay for himself, get 15 guys to ante up the funds to go, everyone take at least 1 day off from work and foot FH's portion....the cost per person became astronomical. a good job doesn't always mean plenty to spend and not everyone wants to say 'I'm broke.'
Thanks for looking that up.
Mitabtrfly
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Posted by LaurenluvsTJ
Can't they do something else? Going to vegas IS an expensive BP!
Right, and now being that it's short notice it's probably even more pricey. I would say AC but who knows how long it's going to be closed. Maybe they can do a night out in the city, or something of the nature.
I'm assuming they can..but I guess he had his heart set on it. Oh well...nothing I can do.
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honestly - if people are saying they cant afford it - its your FH that needs to bend. it is a lot to ask of people to take FH on vacation as well as themselves. alot of times things sound good and than when you step into reality you realize it may be unfeasable.
sorry - i know your FH is disapointed and he should be - but to plan his own and call his gm's selfish is uncool.
he will have a blast @ his BP - its all about being w/ friends and having a good time.
