feel like crying

i dont want to get into details since you never know if someone can figure out who is who on here..

but i need to ask if anyone has ever had to uninvite/unask someone to be in the wedding party??

i think a falling'ish out with a friend may be leading to the ending of a friendship that i thought was very strong. so..... how do you univite and unask someone to be a bridesmaid?? ( also this is someone that you see on a regular basis)

feel like crying...... any thoughts or anyone been here before?
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We had something like that, but it was not because of a falling out...we didn't know if the best man would be able to make it to the wedding.

A lot of people have this issue...after you ask someone to be in it, they may become distant or have problems with them...and you ask yourself why you asked certain people to be in the bridal party.

You are not alone lady!

I think the saddest thing is the friendship is ending... you don't think you can patch things up?????

Sent you FM

Think of it this way. You will be starting a whole giagantic new life as a wife. To a Man u are pledging your life to. Do u want that person there. Do they have your back. Don't do anything just because. This is your day.
sometimes you have to be tough. Protect yourself. There should be no negativity during a spritual ceremony such as marriage.

thank you ladies.
i dont know how things are going to go with this person..or if they even still want to be involved...its soo up in the air..and i do not know how to approach it.

friendships are sacred to me...like family. i dont sweat the small stuff... i guess some people do though.

i dont want sadness during this special time. arghs.. thanks for listening
xo

Yeah.. me. Unfortunately I had the dreadful task of asking someone in my BP to step down. I asked this girl ( a very longtime friend of mine) to be in my BP for the wrong reason. We had a friendship that was growing further apart day after day.. I was hoping that asking her to be in my BP would bring us closer. Unfortunately, It was a huge mistake asking this girl, and believe me.. it was the hardest thing to do, but had to follow my heart. Our friendship was not what it was and her being in my BP wasn't bringing us closer. After months of this being on my mind, I wrote her an e-mail & told her exactly how I feel. To my suprise, she agreed that our friendship was not what it once was and she understood my reasoning for asking her to step down.

My advice? Follow your heart & intuition. Believe me.. you will regret it if you dont follow what your heart is saying to you.

It's never easy, but you have to be honest. One of my friends just stepped down as a BM, due to uncertain circumstances. She was shaking when she asked me if she could step down. She was afraid I'd freak out. Some of them are looking for a way to get out. Many of them feel like its a great thing, until they understand the financial obligation and every other obligation. (Plus, the next day a GM stepped down for financial reasons) Just talk with her and see where she's coming from.