Feelin' A Little Bridezilla - LONNNG Rant.
was very close to a group of girls in college. We actually all met while we were out at a club and then moved into an off campus house together. 9 girls, one 4 bedroom house... YIKES! But we stayed relatively close throughout the years.
I told my friend 'Amy' that I was getting married and she immediately started talking about showers and batchelorette parties and bridesmaid dresses. I told her I was not having a bridal party... and to say she was disappointed would be an UNDERSTATEMENT.
I explained that I just envisioned a very small wedding party. I told her that the wedding itself is going to be very intimate and that just being invited means she is someone very dear and special to me.
So anyway. She is now getting married. First of all, she and her fi have been engaged for LITERALLY 10 years. She has NEVER WANTED TO GET MARRIED. She used to say all the time that she prefers not to be married and that the engagement is basically to appease her family. So now that she is having the wedding of the century, she has asked 7 of our housemates to participate in her wedding (guess which one is not participating?). That's no problem - EXCEPT - I start getting calls from my other housemates to let me know that 'amy' will be getting married on 5/5/07. That's my birthday. And my wedding date. She knows this. The girls are all pretty upset and are going back and forth trying to get one of us to change the date.
I have had to change the date a few times already and I do NOT want to change it again. I booked the hall and I am really looking forward to getting married on my birthday. I already have my Save The Dates ordered and will be sending them next week. She has done NOTHING except tell people that is her intended date - and has started to look at venues for her event.
She sent me an 'e-vite' telling me to save the date for her wedding on May 5th. I - of course - responded 'no'.
It makes me sad that she is not going to be at my wedding and that I can't be at hers. It makes me sad that she is strong arming our mutual friends into choosing between us. One of our housemates told her she couldn't be in the wedding because she didn't feel it was right since I had told everyone about my wedding first. 'Amy' flipped her lid over that and has refused to talk to her since.
It makes me sad that my 'friend' would be this upset about not being in a bridal party that I am not even having. In fact.. this is one of the reasons I am NOT having a bridal party. I wanted to avoid hurt feelings from whomever would not be included. And honestly I would NOT have included her anyway. Only because I have 2 sisters, 2 SIL's and several friends that I have been friends with since I was small and who I still hang out with every weekend.
I tried calling her.. but she doesn't answer. I am pretty upset.
Anyway... thanks for listening.
I told my friend 'Amy' that I was getting married and she immediately started talking about showers and batchelorette parties and bridesmaid dresses. I told her I was not having a bridal party... and to say she was disappointed would be an UNDERSTATEMENT.
I explained that I just envisioned a very small wedding party. I told her that the wedding itself is going to be very intimate and that just being invited means she is someone very dear and special to me.
So anyway. She is now getting married. First of all, she and her fi have been engaged for LITERALLY 10 years. She has NEVER WANTED TO GET MARRIED. She used to say all the time that she prefers not to be married and that the engagement is basically to appease her family. So now that she is having the wedding of the century, she has asked 7 of our housemates to participate in her wedding (guess which one is not participating?). That's no problem - EXCEPT - I start getting calls from my other housemates to let me know that 'amy' will be getting married on 5/5/07. That's my birthday. And my wedding date. She knows this. The girls are all pretty upset and are going back and forth trying to get one of us to change the date.
I have had to change the date a few times already and I do NOT want to change it again. I booked the hall and I am really looking forward to getting married on my birthday. I already have my Save The Dates ordered and will be sending them next week. She has done NOTHING except tell people that is her intended date - and has started to look at venues for her event.
She sent me an 'e-vite' telling me to save the date for her wedding on May 5th. I - of course - responded 'no'.
It makes me sad that she is not going to be at my wedding and that I can't be at hers. It makes me sad that she is strong arming our mutual friends into choosing between us. One of our housemates told her she couldn't be in the wedding because she didn't feel it was right since I had told everyone about my wedding first. 'Amy' flipped her lid over that and has refused to talk to her since.
It makes me sad that my 'friend' would be this upset about not being in a bridal party that I am not even having. In fact.. this is one of the reasons I am NOT having a bridal party. I wanted to avoid hurt feelings from whomever would not be included. And honestly I would NOT have included her anyway. Only because I have 2 sisters, 2 SIL's and several friends that I have been friends with since I was small and who I still hang out with every weekend.
I tried calling her.. but she doesn't answer. I am pretty upset.
Anyway... thanks for listening.
