Okay- I am feeling bad and need some advice. I have 11 BM's. I have one friend whom I was close with but about a year ago we lost touch- for stupid reasons- and just started talking again the week before I got engaged. I did not ask her to be in my wedding b/c we were just starting to talk again. But as time is going on I feel bad and do not know what to do. I planned on asking her to do a reading as I want her involved, but do not know what to do!!! I really feel bad!!!
bluegreen08
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i had lost touch with one of my college roommates (we live 1000 miles apart and are both super busy) so I didnt ask her to be a BM. She actually drove to NY for my e-party (she lives in CT) and we started talking more and hanging out more and I really felt bad about not asking her to be a BM. She didnt make me feel guilty, but I really wished I had asked her and felt it was too late since she knew I asked my BP. I felt this way since Aug (I asked my BP in May) and felt it was too late... well, in Feb I decided screww it and when she came to visit me out here while interviewing for MD/PhD programs I asked her to be a BM... 6 months before my wedding and 9 months after my other BMs. She said yes!!!!! and I am soooo much happier. I dont care that our BP isnt even anymore, and I dont care that her dress might be a slightly different shade of blue.
Do what will make you happy... you dont want any regrets.
Soon 2b Mrs Bev
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You have to do what you feel is right. Im kinda in the same situation.... I have a sister who I dont talk to.... the last time I saw her was at my Eparty. Before that was 4 years ago. I had this friend since high school and we have been on and off for about 3 years.... this past summer i was in ther BP..... so i asked her to be in mine.... I knew I shouldnt have asked her. 2 Months ago we got ino a HUGE fight ..... I pretty much kicked her out of the BP and left it in her hands to decied on what she wants to do... and she said she did not want to be in the BP more...... we no longer talk.... now i have an open spot in my BP...Do I ask My sister???
DavaDay
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Don't feel bad. You already have 11 BMs. You can't ask everyone, and this friend of yours, if she's a real friend, will understand. If you want to include her in another way, maybe you can do that: involve her in planning your Bachelorette party, or ask her to do a reading, or invite her to the rehearsal dinner, something that sets her apart from a 'regular guest.'
