Feeling down...

Me & FH are planning this wedding on our own..well rather I am..FH just inputs..lol

I have no help from my mom or family idea wise.. I booked and set my own shower date and bought the invitations printed them myself and pretty much doing it all..I just emailed my mom some cute ideas..like the towel cake and things of that nature and her reply, if I cant buy it I cant make it have no time..that hurt..I understand she’s busy at work and she is getting a huge promotion..but still..would making an effin towel cake take 2 much time lol I think not..

I’m sad..I get no support and my BM’s are all new to this wedding thing so they think they just show up day of with a pretty dress…thank goodness for this site..


ok vent over..

I am sorry you are feeling down today. But look on the bright side, at least you get to do it YOUR way! When all is said and done you will have the pride that you did it all yourself. Things will get better - have a chocolate bar! That always makes me feel better.

just remember you're planning a day that you're going to remember forever and love because it was entirely to your taste...AND focus on the fact that you love FH and look forward to a long happy life together - because that's what it's all about!!

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Posted by BlushingBride714

I am sorry you are feeling down today. But look on the bright side, at least you get to do it YOUR way! When all is said and done you will have the pride that you did it all yourself. Things will get better - have a chocolate bar! That always makes me feel better.

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I agree - Everything is happening your way!! Just think of the complete opposite you could have everyone throwing in all THEIR ideas and how THEY want it - sometimes the less input from others the better

I'm sorry that you feel down about this. Maybe you can have a heart-to-heart with your mom about it. And with your bridal party, you should definitely talk to them about it, especially your maid of honor since she usually throws the shower. Sorry hun. Hope your day gets a little brighter. Here's a few

Unfortunately, this happens to a lot of people....they don't realize they need to help in the planing process of it too...smile though! remember you are marrying a great guy and that is all that matters....you will get it done! This site is so helpful!

You should tell your BM's about this site so they know what they should be doing. Its not your job to plan the shower...fill them in. As for your mom, I totally understand. My mom is so not the wedding planning type. I feel your pain.
I hope you feel better soon!

Aww, I'm sorry. People just suk sometimes...I agree with the other posters, look at the positives of getting to plan things the way you want and taking pride in what you were able to accomplish. I have an incompetent BP and I wish they could have warned me earlier they would be like this so I could take over and do things the way I wanted. Here are some We're all here for you.

awh here's a hug girl.... You need it! I'm sorry you feel like you have no support! I'm sure your mom cares, but she's just busy. Sometimes moms and people in general can say things that hurt but they don't mean it to. I understand your frustration. We support you!

I'm sorry that the people closest to you are making you feel that way. I hope it gets better!

O i can definately understand why u feel down! I feel the same way someitmes..like no one really cares about this wedding except for me...I'm planning everything pretty much by myself...I don't get much input from FH because he doesn't care about color schemes and what kind of flowers we have and favors, etc. and just seems to think I am making this more complicated than it has to be...of course he helps when i need help like putting together invites and what not.

My family would probably like ot be more involved, but I live in Germany, they live in NJ, so not too easy. And my BMs are also new at this and don't live near me so a)they don't know what to do and b) theres not much they can do.

FHs family doesn't give a **** about the wedding and if we bring it up they usually change the subject..too into their own lives and my 5 month old niece (which I guess I can almost understand).

I am so Sorry you are feeling BLUE
I understand your situation. I have Empathy
We are also paying for our Wedding ourselves.
My parents an Grandmother has halped me with some things (They bought my dress, and favors)
But Mentally, My mother is Not There.
If it wasn't for my FSIL who is also my BM I would be LOST!!!!
Please do NOT let anyone Ruin your Moments. This is the Happiest moments of our Life.
Enjoy it with you FH

awww sorry sweetie!

awwwww hunny!!!!!
This happens to A LOT of people!!! (myself included) You know what I finally said to myself!!!
F*** these people! If they don't care about my wedding and all that goes with it, they don't deserve me to be a good friend to them! Just keep thinking this shall pass and you're marrying the man of your life!!!
XOXOXO
Kitty

I'm so sorry you're having a hard time.

I can't imagine going through the planning alone.

Seriously if you ever need ANYTHING, let us know.

I'm sorry. Sometimes people are very insensitive.