Feeling heavy at heart

Have you ever had a hard time accepting an individual who a person that you are very close with is in a relationship with? The person never did anything to me or to the person who I am very close to, but bc of the society that we live in and from past experiences it is just difficult to accept that person? By no means am I giving the person an ultimatum or asking them to choose between me or the person that they are in a relationship with, its just that for me...its so difficult...I feel guilty, kind of bc the person that I am close with is very dear to me...its just that I can't...maybe not yet...

Anyway, thanks for letting me vent and sorry if I'm rambling on

You didn't ramble. I understood, and can probably relate in some way.

I think that because you said you feel guilt over it, then there is a chance you will be able to reconcile your feelings about this person one day.

oh sweets

Could you maintain a relationship with your friend outside of her relationship?

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Posted by JanuaryBride06

Could you maintain a relationship with your friend outside of her relationship?

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Oh absolutely, its just that this person asked me how I felt about their SO and I just had to tell them the truth...I love them so much that I can't lie to them...but at the same time I know I hurt their feelings but I just couldn't help myself...this is how I feel...now...maybe one day things will change...but they might affect things like holidays and other functions.

That's a tough situation - but I give you much credit for being honest, as any GOOD friend should.

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Posted by JanuaryBride06

That's a tough situation - but I give you much credit for being honest, as any GOOD friend should.

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I agree. Syl- you're a good friend for being honest and expressing your feelings.

Katie - I think if this was the case in my situation it would of been easier to justify my feelings...but the thing is that this person never did anything wrong to me or to this person that I am close with...

Thank you ladies...I feel a little better although my pregnant hormones get the best of me sometimes...I need to snap out of it.

I was just asked by this dear person not to give up and to eventually give it a try...which made me even more

I guess there are things in life that even though we forgive and look past it, sometimes deep down inside we never tend to forget...

Ok now I am singing the JessicaM. tune

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Posted by M&S Sept12006

Katie - I think if this was the case in my situation it would of been easier to justify my feelings...but the thing is that this person never did anything wrong to me or to this person that I am close with...

Thank you ladies...I feel a little better although my pregnant hormones get the best of me sometimes...I need to snap out of it.

I was just asked by this dear person not to give up and to eventually give it a try...which made me even more

I guess there are things in life that even though we forgive and look past it, sometimes deep down inside we never tend to forget...

Ok now I am singing the JessicaM. tune

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You sound like a great friend...my guess is that in the long run you will be able to get past whatever feelings you have for this person for the love of your friend.

absolutely relate. no babbling.

i have gone as far to pray for a stray bullet to take the person out so i wouldnt have to look @ their face anymore.....that is how much i understand....

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Posted by mtdr1106

absolutely relate. no babbling.

i have gone as far to pray for a stray bullet to take the person out so i wouldnt have to look @ their face anymore.....that is how much i understand....

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Those same words came out of my mouth concerning a friend's SO--FH merely looks at me, shakes his head and goes back to whatever he was doing....

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Posted by mtdr1106

absolutely relate. no babbling.

i have gone as far to pray for a stray bullet to take the person out so i wouldnt have to look @ their face anymore.....that is how much i understand....

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