FH doesn't want me to take new job...

shcole08 Posted: Jan 30, 2008 05:20 PM

FH doesn't want me to take new job...

So, I am not taking that job because FI says that he isn't comfortable with the traveling especially since its going to first year married and everything. At first I was really mad but, I guess now I just don't have to worry about myself and my feelings these things are now a joint decision. It's strange...

MikeandJess Posted: Jan 30, 2008 05:20 PM

Re: FH doesn't want me to take new job...

what job? How often would you be traveling?

shcole08 Posted: Jan 30, 2008 05:21 PM

Re: FH doesn't want me to take new job...

About every other month maybe more on weekends....

zoe282 Posted: Jan 30, 2008 05:22 PM

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Good questions. You don't want to feel anger towards your FH if you don't take it. You are right it's hard to think as a pair now. Your decisions affect eachother. BUT that said you are both young, and if its really imporatant to you you have to do what's best for you. Again, that being said I know I would be sad if my FH got a job where he had to travel alot....but just cause your married doesn't mean you lose yourself...

MikeandJess Posted: Jan 30, 2008 05:26 PM

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Posted by shcole08

About every other month maybe more on weekends....

At first I read this and thought, that's ridiculous that you can't take a job because your FH doesn't want you to. Then I reversed the situation and realized I would be really upset if FH took a job where he traveled so I don't think it's wrong of your FH to at least voice his opinion. In the end, it really is your decision

Teamhurldon Posted: Jan 30, 2008 05:26 PM

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what job? i need one...

but seriously that is rough, but then again my fh travels alot, i expressed my disdain towards that and he was like this is my dream job please dont take that from me, and then i had a different outlook on it....

things to think about...

Butterfly123 Posted: Jan 30, 2008 05:32 PM

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Im going to be traveling a lot after the wedding but FH knew Id be traveling a lot when we first met. If this is a new thing, then I can understand why he wouldnt want you to take it but you have to make sure this isnt something you will resent him for in the future. JMO

anneandchris Posted: Jan 30, 2008 05:33 PM

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I know you mentioned yesterday that you weren't 100% about the position so I have to tell you unless it is something you absolutely have your heart set on -- then I wouldn't take the job.

I travel a lot for work. about once a month and it is grueling at times and can be hard on FH especially when they are back to back trips. I work insane hours leading up to the trip and then insane hours when I am there and its hard to find a few minutes to even talk on the phone.

So my point is -- while traveling seem like such a perk it can be sometimes but most of the time it is not exactly what you think it will be.

I can't wait to find something new where I am not living in the airport and hotels.