FH had surgery...and FILs suck!

Yesterday my FH had surgery, he had hurt his shoulder playing softball back this past September. He dove head first for a ball and landed with all his weight on his shoulder. The surgery was supposed to last an hour and a half, the dr was going to clear up the bone spurs that he saw on the MRI...well THREE and a half hours later the doctor comes out to tell me that the MRI really didnt show the true picture! He thought there was a small tear in the rotator cuff, but what really happened was his bicep, tendons and rotator cuff tore away from his bone!!!! OUCH!!! I feel terrible for him...Only to make matters worse NOT ONE PERSON in his entire family called him!!!! They truly suck...he was having his first major surgery and no one even bothered to call him before or after. Mind you, they STILL have not called him. I know he is upset about it, but I am pissed! They are the type that think whatever they're going through should stop the world from turning. His family is such a huge disappointment! Oh well...I am done venting and I need to see if he needs anything else!


Oh...and let me add that his mother KNEW he was having surgery and went to Atlantic City!!! He even left her a voicemail before he went to the hospital and she STILL has not called!!!

What is WRONG with his mother? Her BABY just had surgery? I'm so sorry for him. THANK GOD he has you!

Hope your FH feels better!!!

Don't worry about FIL's ...the one thing that matters is that you were there for him during the surgery!

Hey I am sorry to hear that. I know that sometimes people aren't as caring or at least don't show it that often.

My FH needed a kidney transplant and was on dialysis for 2 1/2 years and his parents never offered to get tested for him. I made a living will saying to donate my kidney if I was to pass away and be sure it went to him. My parents did the same. When his aunt brought it up to his parents his mother wanted nothing to do with it. Umm, this meant life or death. I know how you feel, I really do. If it weren't for me, FH would still be sitting on the kidney transplant list in NY waiting for a donor. Luckily, I pursuaded him to go to Albert Einstein Hospital in Philadelphia b/c their list there is only 2 years as oposed to NY list of 10 years. Do you know that when I told his mom the hospital called and the kidney is for him, I had to ask her if she wanted to go to the hospital with us to get the transplant surgery done? And then she stated, 'I don't know, should I go?' My father came with me for support and I was not even the one having surgery.

Trust me, I understand how you feel.

ETA: I hope your FH feels better and I hope his family finally calls!!!

I sseriously would get on the phone and call her myself. Id be like- HEY YOUR SON HAD MAJOR SURGERY YESTURDAY... and take it from there.. UGH!

Ill keep ur FH in my prayers, i hope everything turns out fine and he has a speedy recovery

Wow I would love to know what is going on in her head thats down right mean I hope he is doing better

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Posted by Trishthedish

Hey I am sorry to hear that. I know that sometimes people aren't as caring or at least don't show it that often.

My FH needed a kidney transplant and was on dialysis for 2 1/2 years and his parents never offered to get tested for him. I made a living will saying to donate my kidney if I was to pass away and be sure it went to him. My parents did the same. When his aunt brought it up to his parents his mother wanted nothing to do with it. Umm, this meant life or death. I know how you feel, I really do. If it weren't for me, FH would still be sitting on the kidney transplant list in NY waiting for a donor. Luckily, I pursuaded him to go to Albert Einstein Hospital in Philadelphia b/c their list there is only 2 years as oposed to NY list of 10 years. Do you know that when I told his mom the hospital called and the kidney is for him, I had to ask her if she wanted to go to the hospital with us to get the transplant surgery done? And then she stated, 'I don't know, should I go?' My father came with me for support and I was not even the one having surgery.

Trust me, I understand how you feel.

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Thats DISGUSTING.. if i were a parent I would die for my children...

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Posted by MrsBartonToBe

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Posted by Trishthedish

Hey I am sorry to hear that. I know that sometimes people aren't as caring or at least don't show it that often.

My FH needed a kidney transplant and was on dialysis for 2 1/2 years and his parents never offered to get tested for him. I made a living will saying to donate my kidney if I was to pass away and be sure it went to him. My parents did the same. When his aunt brought it up to his parents his mother wanted nothing to do with it. Umm, this meant life or death. I know how you feel, I really do. If it weren't for me, FH would still be sitting on the kidney transplant list in NY waiting for a donor. Luckily, I pursuaded him to go to Albert Einstein Hospital in Philadelphia b/c their list there is only 2 years as oposed to NY list of 10 years. Do you know that when I told his mom the hospital called and the kidney is for him, I had to ask her if she wanted to go to the hospital with us to get the transplant surgery done? And then she stated, 'I don't know, should I go?' My father came with me for support and I was not even the one having surgery.

Trust me, I understand how you feel.

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Thats DISGUSTING.. if i were a parent I would die for my children...

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Beieve me most parents would. I just could not understand how she could see her son go through this and either could my family or anyone else I mentioned it too.

They are very nice people besides this but I just couldn't grasp or understand why they were like this. Your kids are your kids and that's it. If you are not willing to lay your life down for your child, then you just should not have kids. That's my theory. Sorry I hope I don't offend anyone.

Nonetheless, all his friends would say to me how come you don't do it. I was like um, I am 28 or whatever age I was then and I have not gotten preg or even had any kids yet and what if my children (b/c they would be FH's offspring) needed it, I would want to donate it to them. It's a rough situation.

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Posted by TLC1018

Icannot believe how some parents can be!! MY mom called him before the surgery to say she loved him and would be thinking of him. When he was getting wheeled into the surgery he asked me, 'did anyone else call me?' i just shook my head. I cannot stand them! At least he is getting good in-laws!

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Thank God for that.

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Posted by TLC1018

Icannot believe how some parents can be!! MY mom called him before the surgery to say she loved him and would be thinking of him. When he was getting wheeled into the surgery he asked me, 'did anyone else call me?' i just shook my head. I cannot stand them! At least he is getting good in-laws!

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omg im soooo sad for him right now.. that seriously f*cks me up to no end.. to hear of parents like that... My FILs are pretty much like that too, whereas my family is AT THE HOSPITAL before during and after on the day of the surgery... for all you girls and FHs in similar situations

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Posted by MrsBartonToBe

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Posted by TLC1018

Icannot believe how some parents can be!! MY mom called him before the surgery to say she loved him and would be thinking of him. When he was getting wheeled into the surgery he asked me, 'did anyone else call me?' i just shook my head. I cannot stand them! At least he is getting good in-laws!

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omg im soooo sad for him right now.. that seriously f*cks me up to no end.. to hear of parents like that... My FILs are pretty much like that too, whereas my family is AT THE HOSPITAL before during and after on the day of the surgery... for all you girls and FHs in similar situations

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It makes me feel so much better to hear it from you girls!! I will flip out if they tell me that I should have called them!! HE was and still is my priority...not them! They knew when it was and didnt even contact him! My friends and family so far have been the only ones to call him! I dont want to say too much to him about it, b/c I know it upsets him...but I really hate them!

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Posted by TLC1018

Icannot believe how some parents can be!! MY mom called him before the surgery to say she loved him and would be thinking of him. When he was getting wheeled into the surgery he asked me, 'did anyone else call me?' i just shook my head. I cannot stand them! At least he is getting good in-laws!

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Thank goodness he is marrying into such a loving and caring family. Your family sounds very much like mine. What a shame about his.

As a parent, I would stop the world if I could to be beside my children, whatever the case may be. Unfortunately, some peoples priorities are soooooooooooo different. I hope he gets well quickly!!

wow...those are some inconsiderate family members!

at least your FH has YOU and you can be there for him, no matter what!

I am sorry his family is being inconsiderate. I hope he feels better