Does anyone else have trouble being on the same level with their FH? I was just on the phone with mine, telling him all the details of last night when I went to pick out the menu and the cake and stuff (he has school on Monday night and stays in the city, so I didn't get a chance to tell him everything yet). He was just 'yes-ing' me to death... I mean, I don't expect him to be as completely on board with all of the planning as I am, but he could at least PRETEND to be interested, you know? Instead he was just saying 'yeah... uh-huh... whatever...' He should know by now how important our wedding is to me, (and how emotionally sensitive I am!) and it hurts to think that he just doesn't give a cr&p about anything.
MrsTC
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sorry he hurt your feelings....but mine does that too....he yeses me too, but I don't take it personally because he is just a typical guy. He does care about the honeymoon though! Don't worry, I am sure he doesn't do it to intentionally hurt you....
He does care...we girls just get waaaay excited!
nrvbrd
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You are not alone- Men really do not give a d*a*m*n* about details. They are looking forward to marrying you, but to hell with everything else, it just does not interest them.
Don't take it the wrong way- he loves you but as most men - he just does not get it.
julybride444
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I wish mine would yes me to death! He actually has opinions about stuff, and that's good but we're certainly learning to compromise!
Most men don't care, and he may be Yessing you because he loves you and wants you to have it exactly the way you want. If he knows how important it is to you he may not want to interfere. Maybe he's afraid if he asks the wrong thing or makes the wrong comment it will hurt your feelings because you'll think he doesn 't like it. Also, men really have no idea WHAT to ask, they don 't know anything about this stuff.
Good luck, and maybe try to get him involved in something you're willing to give him ownership of like the honeymoon or music.
jenny2penny
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he does not mean it,,,I learn a while ago, the little things mean a lot more to us, and I know my FH doesn't want the wedding 'played out' by talking about it all the time. But I do tell him things before I book, so he can't later say, 'what is this'
Jordan
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It would be nice if my FH yes'd me a little...he has WAY too many opinions and we're at the early stages of planning!
I'm sure he didn't mean to hurt your feelings...maybe you caught him at a bad time - what with school and staying in the city and all. Maybe he just wants you to be happy and doesn't have an opinion or a clue on the things you are talking to him about...
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You're all right... I know he doesn't mean to hurt my feelings, and he's generally good about most of the wedding stuff. I am just upset because he should know how what he says will affect me... I guess I just need to not let it bother me.
Thanks ladies, I knew you'd make me feel better!
Jordan
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Maybe you could talk to him about how his choice of words hurt your feelings and suggest a different way to word things. Instead of the blatant 'yes'ing' he could say: That sounds great. Looks like you have it all under control. Or something like that...
Olgaki
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I too have a groom who wants to be involved in everything (pretty much a tame Groomzilla) but I love he cares enough to give me an opinion. On some this he yeses me to death and on others we have full out brawls. It's a good learning experience to say the least.
When talking with him, he told me when he 'yeses' he feels my mind is made up and what's the point of saying anything anyway. Maybe that's how he feels? I'm sure everything will be figured out - just keep those lines of communication open!
prncssrachel
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By any chance, could we have the same FH? Mine is the same way. He claims that he just 'trusts my judgement enough' to make all the decisions. but about EVERYTHING! Not just the wedding, everything. It's sooooooooooooo annoying. I just think how sad it is that he has no opinion, then I thank my lucky stars because he never says no to me, and I can be as spoiled as I want to be! But I'm sorry. I know how it feels to think that FH doesn't care I would talk to him. Good Luck!
Boop2704
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Mine is the same way. I get yes and whatever to anything I tell him relating to the wedding. Thank god for my mother. She really helps me out a lot.
