FH is making me crazy

Fh and I just ordered invitations. Now FH and I promised no more then 200 ppl at our wedding…well when I did the run down thru the list on Friday night to see……it was 300…..and when I looked at his list, the ppl he put were uncalled for…my personal opinion, if u don’t talk to them that much, and haven’t in a year, take them off the list… And on top of it, my parents are paying for the reception…does he think my dad is Rockefeller?
Anybody else dealing with this?

O my god i'm in the same boat as you!! Since we're indian, I understand the fact that you just cant have a small wedding. However, my FH wants to invite 500+ people! I told him that i'd rather have 400, but he doesnt want to listen to me!

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Posted by pickles16

Yes!!!!! MY FH tells me about all these ppl he's thinking of inviting....including 20 PPL from work, some of them whom are married, I flipped out on him a few times, and told him listen, my parents are paying for most of htis , and they aren't going to pay for 20 ppl that you have never mentioned to me all of the sudden are now your best friend at work...we haven't done invites yet, but I'm nervous when we do them, it seems to have gotten trhough to him, but you never know!

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omg pickles....fh did the same thing to me!! 20 ppl from work! i'm like are you kidding me! I'm inviting 5 ppl from work....3 of whom i have to and 2 cuz i want too...

insane

if he doesnt budge on this, i might have to be really bad, and do something not so nice, but dont want too...I mean if some ppl just never go an invite, cuz it got lost in the mail? thats too evil, i cant do that to him, i'd be starting off with a lie, i cant ohhh but sooo tempting

I was thinking of telling him that they never RSVP's but he could go in saying like hey are you coming.....I told him outright....I never heard of htese ppl before, he talks about a few, but claims since he works on a trading desk he needs to invite his group..I was like NO WAY......my mother will tell him if it comes to it...and that won't be pretty.....

i hear ya on that pickles...i was thinking the same with having my mom tell him
but she already made it clear shes not paying for more then 200 heads and 175 is the minimum,....then i had to remind him last nite we have vendors that need to eat too...

so we decided on friday we're sitting down to discuss this and finalize it so we dont kill each other...

men....they make me crazy
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My FH wants to invite people he has not spoken to in 4 years just because they invited him to their wedding.

I feel your pain - they don't really GET alot of things, this is one of them!

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Posted by Bunnymonkey

My FH wants to invite people he has not spoken to in 4 years just because they invited him to their wedding.

I feel your pain - they don't really GET alot of things, this is one of them!

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and when I explain it to him, he makes me feel like crap and tells me how its his wedding too, and he's absolutely right, but my goodness

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Posted by Bebalina

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Posted by Bunnymonkey

My FH wants to invite people he has not spoken to in 4 years just because they invited him to their wedding.

I feel your pain - they don't really GET alot of things, this is one of them!

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and when I explain it to him, he makes me feel like crap and tells me how its his wedding too, and he's absolutely right, but my goodness

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MY FH does the same exact thing, he's like its my wedding too and I want certain ppl there bc I want them to enjoy it too..but this seems like a trend, a friend of mine just got married and was telling me how her DH was asking her every day for another invitation bc he was handing them out to random ppl that he happned to bump into after not seeing them in g-d knows how long...I was cracking up...

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Posted by pickles16

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Posted by Bebalina

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Posted by Bunnymonkey

My FH wants to invite people he has not spoken to in 4 years just because they invited him to their wedding.

I feel your pain - they don't really GET alot of things, this is one of them!

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and when I explain it to him, he makes me feel like crap and tells me how its his wedding too, and he's absolutely right, but my goodness

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MY FH does the same exact thing, he's like its my wedding too and I want certain ppl there bc I want them to enjoy it too..but this seems like a trend, a friend of mine just got married and was telling me how her DH was asking her every day for another invitation bc he was handing them out to random ppl that he happned to bump into after not seeing them in g-d knows how long...I was cracking up...

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omg i would die if fh did that....lol now he definetly will not be touching the invitations. lol
for my hands only .

This sounds like a conversation my now married friend and I had about our tentative list. My cut off is 12 months. If we have not seen or spoken to a person in 12 months then no invitation. Family is included in that too since FI and I are both close to most of our family members and see them a lot.

Wow! I am in the same situation as all of you and it sucks. My FH is a nice guy and doesnt want to hurt anyones feelings I guess. His keeps on insisting on inviting this one 'friend' of his that he hasn't spoke to in 6 years!! I keep telling him that he can't, that we are trying to stick to a budget because my parents are also paying for most of this.

But even worse than my FH is my FMIL. She has 13 brothers and sisters! some whom she doesnt even talk to but yet keeps insisting on inviting them!! I don't know if she wants to show off or what but it is really bothering me.

The whole guest list thing is THE BIGGEST problem that FH and I fight about. I don't know what to do anymore. FMIL doesn't have the money to pay for all of her 13 brothers and sisters. Do I just take them off? I mean how can she expect my parents to spend $120 pp for her siblings that she doesn't even talk to? UGH! So frustrating

I am going through the exact OPPOSITE!
My FI doesn't want to invite anyone! I am inviting like 50 people, and him, maybe 3. It really bothers me! Doesn't he care he is getting married? Does he want to keep that a secret?