FH (LOOONG)
Please excuse all my typing errors.
First, I'd like to say, my FH is usually very thoughtful and sensitive and I love him for that.
But tonight he pissed me off and really hurt my feelings and it's 1am, so I can't call anyone about it and I'm really upset.
*Background*
About a month ago, I was talking about my dress shopping plans and I mentioned that for my first trip, I would take my mom since she's on LI, the places I want to go are out east and she's MY MOM. Then I would take HIS mom with me when I went to the city to go to RK since she's in Brooklyn and she's NOT MY mom.
He didn't think that was fair. I said well, too bad. She has a daughter she can go with., I'm my mother's only daughter and I'm not bringing 13 people to my first dress appointment. She can go to the second trip. I'm not picking a dress til I go to at least 3 places if not more so she'll def have a chance to go.
Convo over.
*TODAY*
I spent an hour and a half on the road to pick him up from work in downtown Brooklyn so he wouldn't have to take the train. I was going there for FFIL's birthday, so I picked him up on the way. Were it not for that, I would have gone another way and been there in less than an hour.
In the car, we were talking about the wedding. I told him I had planned on going dress shopping last week of August with my mom and MOH. He was like 'You know, I really hope you're going to include my mother' in a b!tchy tone. The traffic, plus his b!tch voice and the fact that we already settled this and i AM including his mother made me raise my voice, which I don't easily do with him. I said 'What part of your thick skull doesn't get that I AM including her! I'm taking her with me the second time I go, the first time I want to be alone with my mom and MOH!! Why is that a problem?'
He didn't talk to me the rest of the way home.
We get to his house and he went upstairs to change. I explained the whole thing to his mom and said sorry if you're ofended, but I honestly didn't think you would be. She said 'I'm not. I don't have to come with you at all, honestly, you should go with your mom.' And I said thanks, but I DO want her there and that's why I want her to come to RK.
Fine.
SO I'm cool with FMIL.
But b!tchface FH still won't talk to me. Diriving to dinner, at dinner, driving back, at his house, having cake, after his parents went to bed... won't talk to me.
Then, right after his parents go upstairs to bed, he falls asleep on the couch. I tried to wake him up for TWO HOURS so I could go home because he has to put his car in my parking space so his mom can get out of the driveway in the am and he has to set the alarm behind me and lock the door.
He wouldn't get up.
So I had to sit in his house, with him asleep across the room, not talking to me anyway, fro 2 hours. I could have been at home doing crap I needed to get done if he wasn't going tot alk to me.
I'm just so upset becasue,.... if you don't trust me to do the right thing and you feel the need to expalin what's right and wrong to me like I'm a 5 year old (even though you're wrong anyway), then why are you with me? I'm not a baby. I'm not a social retard. I made it through 23 years of life before you, my social graces are just fine, thanks.
The thing of it is, I was going to ask her to go with me whether he asked me to or not because I love FMIL and she does a lot for me and I want her there. He didn't have to tell me to do 'the right thing'.
So upset. It was the first day we had to hang out where I was stress free in WEEEEEEEKS and he ruined it.
//rant. Thanks.
PS, if you read all of this, I owe you a cookie.
