FH question

jovigirl414 Posted: Apr 30, 2011 01:41 AM

FH question

How involved is your FH in the wedding planning?

Fallinlove1013 Posted: Apr 30, 2011 03:10 AM

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Very! He proposed right before I started my first full time job...so he made all the appointments in the beginning....reception halls....priest etc! Since then we both make appointments but I make most of the decisions and he agrees usually lol but I always ask his opinion! If he disagreed majorly I take it into consideration......ex I was considering a choreographed first dance but he doesn't wantto.....I'm fine with it! It's his weddingtoo lol. I love that he's so involved tho...he even had a strong opinion on the table linens! Lol . I felt bad when he was working when I wentto the florist...he was like I don't need to go I trust u....but we were there so long he ended up showing up after work! I was so happy for that surprise! I want him involved in everything aslong as its not a bore to him! Lol

spdy540 Posted: Apr 30, 2011 05:14 AM

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At first my fh couldn't care all he wanted was a wedding, today is a completely different story. I usually set up appoints but fh drops off some of the payments. The cake fh made me go to a bunch of bakeries because he needed to find the best cake. He we see things in some girls pics while I was on here and had to have them ie uplighting. He became a headache but I'm happy he is involved

rosatemp Posted: Apr 30, 2011 07:00 AM

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Hes involve with all major decisions rh photographer etc. I take care of the minor details which is fine with me lol

dpanzarino Posted: Apr 30, 2011 08:15 AM

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VERY! He comes to all appointments, manages our 'budget' and negotiates with all vendors. The one and only vendor he did not meet with was the florist - that was something my mom really wanted to do!

jovigirl414 Posted: Apr 30, 2011 08:22 AM

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Yea ... I feel like my FH is not involved at all...

fdnybride163 Posted: Apr 30, 2011 08:47 AM

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surprisingly he actually has an opinion about a lot of stuff! AND he is rational and keeping me grounded!! he is the one who is like 'you dont NEED to spend $200 on shoes' or we are NOT paying an extra charge for them to do an intermezzo, ect'

this is why I am marrying him, he keeps me sane! (yet drives me insane at the same time!!)

MrsTarricone2B Posted: Apr 30, 2011 08:50 AM

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He was more involved in the beginning but has backed off a little bit. He comes to every vendor meeting with me though and I don't book or buy anything with out asking his opinion first. Usually he just says ' if that's what you want babe ' LOL

jovigirl414 Posted: Apr 30, 2011 08:57 AM

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Posted by fdnybride163

this is why I am marrying him, he keeps me sane! (yet drives me insane at the same time!!)

I totally feel the same way about my FH... but not when it comes to the wedding planning ... He leaves it all up to me, because he wants me to 'have my perfect wedding day' ... I feel like its a copout sometimes.

jettahot Posted: Apr 30, 2011 09:00 AM

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HE came to all of the appointments with me with vendors and I didnt make any big decisions without him.
I did alot of little things on my own but he will laways be aware of major things and will come to all final meetings when it gets closer.
I handle ALL of the money and payments!

Fallinlove1013 Posted: Apr 30, 2011 09:10 AM

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Posted by jovigirl414

Posted by fdnybride163

this is why I am marrying him, he keeps me sane! (yet drives me insane at the same time!!)

I totally feel the same way about my FH... but not when it comes to the wedding planning ... He leaves it all up to me, because he wants me to 'have my perfect wedding day' ... I feel like its a copout sometimes.

mayb u should tell him ur so happy that he wants it to be perfect for u but u want him to be more involved...i bet hed do anything for u! mayb he just doesnt think u want him involved in wat he may see as 'girl stuff'

TheEyesOfMarch Posted: Apr 30, 2011 09:24 AM

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FH is involved. Certain things he has an opinion about while others he'll let me decide. 'Whatever I want' he'll say to me

FH went to all the appointments except for the florist. I'm the one who loves flowers so he didn't come to the intial appointment but he'll come when we see our samples.

TheEyesOfMarch Posted: Apr 30, 2011 09:25 AM

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I like the he's involved. I always tell him it's OUR WEDDING.. therefore we both decide.... 'but' of course if I don't get what I want I always have the saying... 'but babe, I thought it was my day and I can have anything i want?...'

lol

jovigirl414 Posted: Apr 30, 2011 09:26 AM

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I get the 'whatever you want' too ...

I told him that I feel like he doesn't care about the wedding. He said he is extremely excited to marry me, but the wedding is just a party and I should do it how I want ... THEN GIMME MORE MONEY!

Yankeeelove Posted: Apr 30, 2011 09:34 AM

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All the big things he does w/ me like booking the vendors and stuff. I handle all of the small details. He's been great in terms of helping when I ask, he never says he doesn't want to.

Ellynrose Posted: Apr 30, 2011 10:09 AM

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He's involved in everything. He wants to be there for all the decisions and have imput. It's alright with me because ultimately he let's me have my way

Soon2bMrsB91511 Posted: Apr 30, 2011 10:33 AM

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There would seriously be no wedding without FH. I'm such a bad planner and I get overwhelmed very easily, so he's legitimately been nothing short of amazing. He's SO involved in any and every decision (other than my dress, obv), and he's been such a source of strength and support throughout this whole ordeal.

We live in FL and are getting married in NY so its really tough planning a wedding from out of state. He even helped choose my headpiece, and other little things that most men could probably care less about. I honestly feel like he wants me to have everything I want on this day and it makes me feel SO wonderful to know that this wonderful man is going to become my husband in 138 days