FH rant and I need advice! Please help me! (long story - sorry)
Okay, so last night FH wanted to go out to this bar that he always goes to with his friends and his cousin and her friends. They all know me but I rarely go out to the bar b/c I don’t like it – I am bored out of my mind b/c all the talk about it SPORTS.
He begs me to go all the time and I almost always tell him no b/c I would rather be doing almost anything else. Then he gets upset with me b.c he wants me to drive him there so he does not have to be responsible for driving and his car would not be left at the bar if he took a cab home. So even though I of course decided not to go he still asks me to drive him there. I said no. He disappeared into my basement and all of a sudden (like an hour later – I thought he was on the computer doing his “fantasy” baseball BS) his cousin is at my house picking him up to go to the bar. He tells me NOTHING! I thought he was going to go there with his car but NO – he leaves his car at my house and his cousin mysteriously appears at my house to pick him up. THEN he asks me if he should call me when he is done to come and pick him up so he can sleep at my house (which mind you would be at 4am). I said, no go sleep at home.
SOOO. . . he calls this morning (9:30) and tells me he called me last night, but my cell phone at 345 to tell me he was on his way home. He wants to come over here to do a “fantasy draft” that apparently I am supposed to be a part of (I know nothing about these things). So – if you are reading carefully – where is his car???? That’s right – at my house and how is he supposed to get to my house??? His parents will not drive him – so he can either walk (it’s a few miles ? like 7 or something), so he wants ME to pick him up!
And, of course he plans to have some of HIS friends come to my house tonight to watch . . . “Wrestlemania”. I don’t watch that crap! (Sorry if any of you like it – I just really don’t). The pay-per view show will be on tonight until like 11pm which means that his friends will not leave until like 12 and I have to be up in the am at 530 for work. He made these plans by assuming that I would okay with them! He asked me and I NEVER said “yes” but I did not say “no” so he went with that the answer would have to be “yes” b/c that is what he wanted the answer to be.
I told him he is selfish and he never thinks of how I feel and that we need to talk about this. My problem and fear is that I can pull this crap now B/C we don’t live together. What is going to happen when we get married? What am I going to do? Does anyone ever feel this way? I mean I feel like I get “cold feet” a lot! What is wrong with me?? Help!!
He begs me to go all the time and I almost always tell him no b/c I would rather be doing almost anything else. Then he gets upset with me b.c he wants me to drive him there so he does not have to be responsible for driving and his car would not be left at the bar if he took a cab home. So even though I of course decided not to go he still asks me to drive him there. I said no. He disappeared into my basement and all of a sudden (like an hour later – I thought he was on the computer doing his “fantasy” baseball BS) his cousin is at my house picking him up to go to the bar. He tells me NOTHING! I thought he was going to go there with his car but NO – he leaves his car at my house and his cousin mysteriously appears at my house to pick him up. THEN he asks me if he should call me when he is done to come and pick him up so he can sleep at my house (which mind you would be at 4am). I said, no go sleep at home.
SOOO. . . he calls this morning (9:30) and tells me he called me last night, but my cell phone at 345 to tell me he was on his way home. He wants to come over here to do a “fantasy draft” that apparently I am supposed to be a part of (I know nothing about these things). So – if you are reading carefully – where is his car???? That’s right – at my house and how is he supposed to get to my house??? His parents will not drive him – so he can either walk (it’s a few miles ? like 7 or something), so he wants ME to pick him up!
And, of course he plans to have some of HIS friends come to my house tonight to watch . . . “Wrestlemania”. I don’t watch that crap! (Sorry if any of you like it – I just really don’t). The pay-per view show will be on tonight until like 11pm which means that his friends will not leave until like 12 and I have to be up in the am at 530 for work. He made these plans by assuming that I would okay with them! He asked me and I NEVER said “yes” but I did not say “no” so he went with that the answer would have to be “yes” b/c that is what he wanted the answer to be.
I told him he is selfish and he never thinks of how I feel and that we need to talk about this. My problem and fear is that I can pull this crap now B/C we don’t live together. What is going to happen when we get married? What am I going to do? Does anyone ever feel this way? I mean I feel like I get “cold feet” a lot! What is wrong with me?? Help!!
