My FH who I do live with is going to Vegas next month for his Best Friend's/ Best Man's Bachelor Party. I won't get into how much I hate the thought of Bachelor Parties in Vegas... it turns my stomach!
But anyway...Long story short... he asked me around 5pm if I'd be mad if he went to AC tonight for a few hours with a bunch of the guys he is going to Vegas with.
Keep in mind... this is after he ditched me Thursday to see Wolverine and ditched me tonight to see Star Trek.
I said Yes I'd be upset if he went cuz I don't see the point in wasting more money on gambling if he's going to vegas in a month. Am I wrong?
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I think it depends on how much he is planning on gambling...But, Yes I would be upset as well, especially if he ditched you for friends already.
If you told him yes and he still goes I would be pissed because he is not taking your feelings into account..that just me though..I tend to hold a grudge
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sooo NOT wrong! and why can't u come to all of these activities (minus the B-party)? I would be furious in ur place, not just irritated u need to explain to ur FH that this is really hurting ur feelings, and he needs to put u 1st, not hanging out with friends. he's not in high school after all.
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Well.... I could have gone to the movies... but I had no desire to see either of them. And here's the thing.... I did say Hey how come I can't come to AC? he said I could ... then I said.... I should have to ASK YOU!?!?
The point is... I end up looking like the bad guy who gives him a hard time. Now he's all I won't go if you don't come.... I don't wanna drive 3 hours to AC at 10pm at night for 4 hours to drive back 3 hours and get home at 4am!!! That's what he wants to do!!! UGHHH
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I hate when they play all mortar after being in the wrong! ugh! I would not want to go as well if I was asked like that. It's very good to have ur own interests and see ur friends, but it has to be done in a full consideration of ur partner's feelings 1st. I don't think ur being a bad guy at all
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I would be upset... especially if this was the 4th night in a row he made plans without me...
(I happen to agree with you on the Vegas Bachelor Party... luckily when my FH's brother suggested it my FH said that wouldn't be neccessary)
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u r so not wrong. vegas would bother me also, just knowing whats out there. i would also be mad cuz he ditched u twice already.
Hmmm I'd let him know that your not happy about it but if he wants to go then thats fine - it wouldn't really bother me...
Relish21
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Update: he didn't go
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Good boy!
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Good boy!
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I wouldn't be mad. You could have went to the movies, you CHOSE not to, so he didn't ditch you.
ANd yeah, if you want to go to AC with him, you should ask him... people are not mind readers, and sometimes you need to tell them what you want, how you feel, etc. Just because he's your fiance doesn't mean he's telepathic :)
I get the whole 'he's hanging out with his friends more than me' thing, and if you feel that way, tell him. If you trust him then Vegas shouldn't be a big deal no matter 'what goes on out there'. Your FH loves you and is coming home to you and that's what's important.
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i agree with joanne.. and she put it nicely..so thank u Joanne lol.
you chose not to do anything with him. obviously the boy doesnt want to sit home.. so you cant really be mad at him lol
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i wouldn't be mad at him! you need to be honest and tell him exactly how you feel!! seriously!!!!
Vegas is VEgas fh has gone to bachelor parties there and it didn't bother me at all! its because i trust him!! and that's the key you can't just let the word 'vegas' affect you lol you have to trust him and know that he won't do anything wrong!!!!!!! if he were to do something bad he could do it here or at anytime! and i don't think he'll do that!! so just let him be relax you are thinking about this way too much and its not a good idea you will be the one hurt in the end!! good luck!
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Posted by JoanneAndJustin
I wouldn't be mad. You could have went to the movies, you CHOSE not to, so he didn't ditch you.
ANd yeah, if you want to go to AC with him, you should ask him... people are not mind readers, and sometimes you need to tell them what you want, how you feel, etc. Just because he's your fiance doesn't mean he's telepathic :)
I get the whole 'he's hanging out with his friends more than me' thing, and if you feel that way, tell him. If you trust him then Vegas shouldn't be a big deal no matter 'what goes on out there'. Your FH loves you and is coming home to you and that's what's important.
