FH SISTER

danandme4life Posted: Dec 02, 2007 08:45 PM

FH SISTER

Ok I am not sure if I am uspet about this or not. FH sister just dropped out of the wedding party. She is going to be 30 this year and lives at home with her parents and her 12 yr old son. she is trying to move out by april and cant afford to be in the wedding party. She also spends her money frivolously. I feel bad for her but FH doesnt want to offer to pay for her dress and such and I'm not so sure that it would be fair when I have 10 other girls who arent well off either and im not paying for them. Are we wrong for not offering to pay?

angl2001 Posted: Dec 02, 2007 08:46 PM

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not at all....you shouldnt have to put out more money than you already are! if your eally want her in and CAN affor it then go ahead..noone has to know....but thats up to you,

babieblueeyez96 Posted: Dec 02, 2007 08:46 PM

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no...especially if she spends money all the time

smjack Posted: Dec 02, 2007 08:50 PM

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Thats a rough situation- because of course you can't pay for everyones dress, but at the same time I'm sure you would want her to be a part of the day. Maybe you could compromise with her- I don't know what you did for your BM dresses, but I let them all pick out their own dress in a color so they could pick one that they liked and was in their price range. There is probably other ways she could find to save money as well if she still wants to be a part of your day! (borrowing shoes from a friend ect) But again i don't know the details of your colors, ect...so depending on that it could be hard to do that.

ETA: i misread the posting a bit----it is really her decision if she is choosing to spend her money 'frivolously' then her priorities are off. If she wants to be a part of it, she could adjust her spending....

kristi313 Posted: Dec 02, 2007 08:54 PM

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i would say you're not wrong. if she spends frivilously as you mentioned then obviously she finds money to spend somehow. i wouldn't lose any sleep over it. plus like you said, your other bm's aren't well off either, it wouldn't be fair. maybe you could have her be a reader or something to at least keep her involved.

tiff940 Posted: Dec 02, 2007 08:58 PM

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Not at all...I wouldnt. If she rather spend her money on other stupid stuff instead of being part of her own brothers most important day than she really doesnt seem to care so why should you.

ChristineAaron08 Posted: Dec 02, 2007 08:58 PM

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I dotn think you are wrong at all. When you accept to be in a wedding party you should anticipate spending $ on things like a dress, etc.

Its her responsibility to make sure she has $ for those things and doesnt spend money on friviilous things

Maybe her mother will pay for her dress..but you two shouldnt have to

minibride08 Posted: Dec 02, 2007 10:13 PM

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I wouldn't pay either... Better you found out now anyway and had her back out.... Might have been more drama later on which you don't need ($$ / responsibility related).