I am so mad at him....his mom is starting trouble again and of course he takes her side Why do men feel the need to take their mommys side why?????
myssd
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take a deep breath and tell him how you feel... he now has anothe woman in his life and he has to realize that you are the one that is gong to give him hell!! i understand that he has to try to appease both of you but he needs to learn to stay neutral or be on your side
Goldi1021
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Oh I feel your pain!!! What men need to realize is now that they are engaged (or married) their mothers are NOT #1 anymore. I have had to explain this to FH a few times. When a man promises his life to a woman, he is under obligation to his wife (and children when the time comes) FIRST. I would not consciously drive a wedge between FH and his mother, but YOU should come first. FH's parents are always asking him to do things. One time he said he had to check with me first, and his mom made some comment about him being hen-pecked. I think it is common courtesy when you have a life with someone else to check with them.
At first, I thought FMIL did not like me, then I realized that it wasn't ME she didn't like, but the fact that she had to share her ONLY SON with another woman. I have to keep the peace as she is relatively young and will be around for a very long time. I may need a drink just thinking about it!
jpavig
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I feel your pain. Just remember, you will eventually get what you want in the end. Even if it's slightly twisted.
For as long as I can remember I've always wanted a dj for my wedding. Well we then saw the band Paris. I knew we couldn't afford them so no need to bring it up. Well FIL's pushed and pushed for a band no matter how many times I said no. FH finally got into it and took their side. Well when it all came down to it I said Fine. We'll have a band but I'm picking them and FIL's are paying. Long story short, I got Paris.
Goldi1021
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FMIL problems come up all the time here. I asked this once before, but do you think we need a support group?
christy
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Oh that is a tough one. I am very lucky that my DH never takes his moms side. However, I see some of my friends go through this with their dh's. It is a tough situation, tell him how it makes you feel.
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i am lucky also my dh would take my side even if i was dead wrong just to spite his mother. but its a really hard thing to deal with im sure he takes her side because he feels your the more reasonable one and that you will understand more then his mom does
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I was so afraid that FH would be like this but instead he complains about her more than I do.
Hang in there.
slwh2005
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Ugh!!! Hopefully he'll come around.
allaboutthecake
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Posted by steflily
I was so afraid that FH would be like this but instead he complains about her more than I do.
