FH Vent

I am so mad at FH right now! He just called me and said 'we have a problem - I have softball playoffs and finals next Wednesday and Thursday.'

Normally -not a big deal although I do get annoyed that he plays on THREE leagues - except that next Wednesday night we're going to see Jimmy Buffett at Jones Beach (which is something I do every year and it's the first year FH was going with me) and oh yeah - Thursday is my birthday! FMIL is coming in from FL on Sunday and my mother invited me, FH and FMIL to her house for dinner for my birthday. To make matters worse, our parents have never met so this was also going to be their first meeting.

I am so ready to kill him. He keeps telling me how bad he feels but it's not helping.

Either way I look like a brat. If I tell him he can't play, his teammates aren't happy and he's not happy which means I'm not happy because he'll be acting like a baby all night. If I tell him he can play, I'm spending my birthday without him.

Oh yeah and we can't even say we'll celebrate it Friday night because we have a wedding and on Saturday it's my aunt's 75th bday party.

I know I'm being a big crybaby but I can't help it. I think I need a hug......

that does s uck and i dont think u r being a baby..its ur birthday..and as a softball player myself i will say it s ucks



he better make it up biiiiiig time

I don't have any words of wisdom for you, but you could use these:

Thanks for the hugs.

I told him I better get an extra nice present - I don't care how much we're spending on the wedding and the house.

sending good vibes your way :)

Ugh, I totally feel you on this one. I'm a hockey widow, and more recently, a softball widow too...it's like every Saturday is shot and now Thursdays too! So frustrating!

I hope it works out...stand your ground

CRYBABY! I don't think so. Let me see if I have this right. Your FH is making softball more important than you! AND.....it's your birthday.
Don't say a word........Call all your girlfriends & make a date to have a 'GIRLS NIGHT OUT ' on his birthday. Than charge the limo your going out in to his credit card a week before his birthday.When he starts in about it remind him of this softball nonsence & how he owes you one!
That should fix his a$$.

I don't think you are being a brat or a baby! I would be upset too, probably more mad than upset but still! It kills me that they can't just come to the conclusion on their own to tell the team 'Hey, it's my fiance's b-day and I can't play' that's what I would do! It's not like it's the major leagues or there's going to be a scout there looking to see how he plays, it wouldn't be a big deal to not be there!!! Ugh, they kill me! I'm so sorry!!!!

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Posted by italgal

CRYBABY! I don't think so. Let me see if I have this right. Your FH is making softball more important than you! AND.....it's your birthday.
Don't say a word........Call all your girlfriends & make a date to have a 'GIRLS NIGHT OUT ' on his birthday. Than charge the limo your going out in to his credit card a week before his birthday.When he starts in about it remind him of this softball nonsence & how he owes you one!
That should fix his a$$.

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Hahaha!! I love the way this chick thinks!!! I'm with her on it!!

I'm sorry.. and here are some hugs just for you Gina!!!

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Posted by KerriJohnS

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Posted by italgal

CRYBABY! I don't think so. Let me see if I have this right. Your FH is making softball more important than you! AND.....it's your birthday.
Don't say a word........Call all your girlfriends & make a date to have a 'GIRLS NIGHT OUT ' on his birthday. Than charge the limo your going out in to his credit card a week before his birthday.When he starts in about it remind him of this softball nonsence & how he owes you one!
That should fix his a$$.

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Hahaha!! I love the way this chick thinks!!! I'm with her on it!!

I'm sorry.. and here are some hugs just for you Gina!!!

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Thanks for the hugs! Oh just wait till next April 25. I do a girls weekend with my friends every year the last weekend of March. This year it will be in April! Oh and of course, I'm putting it ALL on his charge card. I am so pi$$ed off at him right now.

He keeps saying how bad he feels. The difference between men and women is I wouldn't even tell him I had something else to do the night of his birthday. I just wouldn't do it and spend the night with him instead of making him feel guilty for even having a birthday!

I am really not liking him much today.

Sometimes it helps by letting the person know exactly how you feel otherwise they won't get or understand anything. Let him know how much it would mean to you if he spend that one day with you to the concert since it's your birthday. This way it kicks in the guilt w/o making it seem like it's forced on him not to play softball. More than likely, he'll know which is more important or higher priority.
As for both of your families meeting each other for the first time, I understand exactly how you feel. That happened with myself and DH and it was a bit akward and uncomfortable. However, keep in mind that it's extremely important to get past the akwardness and get acquainted with one another before your wedding. I know it can get hard and tough at times but hang in there, if you can make it through this, you'll be able to weather any storm that comes your way.

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Posted by italgal

CRYBABY! I don't think so. Let me see if I have this right. Your FH is making softball more important than you! AND.....it's your birthday.
Don't say a word........Call all your girlfriends & make a date to have a 'GIRLS NIGHT OUT ' on his birthday. Than charge the limo your going out in to his credit card a week before his birthday.When he starts in about it remind him of this softball nonsence & how he owes you one!
That should fix his a$$.

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I love it!

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Posted by JoJoD

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Posted by italgal

CRYBABY! I don't think so. Let me see if I have this right. Your FH is making softball more important than you! AND.....it's your birthday.
Don't say a word........Call all your girlfriends & make a date to have a 'GIRLS NIGHT OUT ' on his birthday. Than charge the limo your going out in to his credit card a week before his birthday.When he starts in about it remind him of this softball nonsence & how he owes you one!
That should fix his a$$.

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I love it!

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Perfect!

I would tell him how upset this makes you. I'm sure you wouldn't play softball (or the equivalent) on his birthday...

I agree with the others. Make it a girls night out.

I honestly LOVE impromptu girls nights out. They're so much fun