FH wants dad as BM

cmdmfs Posted: Sep 02, 2003 01:27 PM

FH wants dad as BM

My FH wants his dad to be his BM. Is anyone else doing this. My FMIL is upset about this. She feels she raised him up to the age of 12 (this is when his father finally realized his son is growing up without him) and she does not want to sit tin the chuch pue alone (she is an only child). How can I make everyone happy?

aliciahelene Posted: Sep 02, 2003 01:29 PM

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wowow..I think its nice if he had his father as his BM. Maybe you can find a way to inlude yoru FMIL in the wedding..give her a job.it sounds like she feels liek she did the work and teh father is getting the credit..maybe she feels unappreciated..would it work out if you included her in the wedding?

Chloegirl Posted: Sep 02, 2003 01:38 PM

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My cousin just got married this past saturday and his step dad was his BM. So my uncle (BM stood with groomsmen and my aunt (his mom) stood with the girls. The brides parents also stood. Her mom at the end of the girls line and her dad at the end fo the GM's line.

It was nice....hope this helps.

Xelindrya Posted: Sep 02, 2003 01:58 PM

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My father stood as Best Man for my brother. I was a bridesmaid. My stepmother just sat around..

I can't help with the mother issue, unless you might want to sit them together?

jar823 Posted: Sep 02, 2003 02:06 PM

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I think it is a nice gesture to have his father as his bestman. Are you doing a unity candle? I am having both of our mothers come up to light the initial candles. I think that is a nice way to add the mothers into the ceremony. Or she could do a reading.

cmdmfs Posted: Sep 02, 2003 04:18 PM

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Thanks for all you advise. I would like to do the unity candle but my FMIL says it makes her cry???
Anyway, I think that's what I going to do. Plus she can have my FFIL's two sisters sit with her. This is really getting my FH blue.

Thanks!!

2UNTAMED Posted: Sep 02, 2003 05:30 PM

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My FI has his dad as BM and my Mom is my MOH. Why don't you ask her to be a reader durring the ceremony. That way she can included and sit up front. If you are having more than one reader, have them all sit together and she won't be alone or feel left out??

patrice1128 Posted: Sep 03, 2003 06:08 AM

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Have here do a reading for the ceremony. My FHs dad is the best man too. Even though my FMIL never said that she was hurt or anything, we thought it was best to include her in the ceremony. We had her pick her reading herself.