Fight between two best men

So last night FH told me that his two best men got into a huge fight about the bachelor party. Best man Ed is planning a trip tp Las Vegas and was getting ready to book flights/hotels/etc. Best man Kieran then freaked out about the price of the trip and basicaly said he was not spending all that money and wanted to push the trip back from March to May when he can afford it.

He has known about this trip since June/July of this year. I told FH that he cant go in May because we have too much stuff to do the month before the wedding.

Needless to say FH wants everyone to go but does not know what to do or hurt anyone's feelings and asked me very nonchantly to ask my LIW board for advice/suggestions.

Any advice for FH or should I just let the two best men sort this stuff out?

tell kieran to **** it up. if anything borrow money ..

Um, Kieran needs to learn how to budget! If all the guys + Ed are in for March, the K needs to deal.

Was it like a fistfight or just verbal?

He has a full time job, lives at home with his parents and pays no bills other than his cell phone.

And he is not planning a WEDDING!!!!

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Posted by JayBee216

Um, Kieran needs to learn how to budget! If all the guys + Ed are in for March, the K needs to deal.

Was it like a fistfight or just verbal?

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It was a verbal argument but it was pretty intense.

i think in order to keep the friendship, your FH should sit down with him & discuss it. he may live at home & not have any bills other then cell phone, but only as far as u & FH know.

maybe he or his family had some unexpected expenses recently.

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Posted by christine2010

i think in order to keep the friendship, your FH should sit down with him & discuss it. he may live at home & not have any bills other then cell phone, but only as far as u & FH know.

maybe he or his family had some unexpected expenses recently.

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ITA.. my MOH was getting married, she wanted to do her bach. party in fla, and well I couldn't afford airfare, hotel, etc.. and i still live at home, at that point I don't think I was engaged yet (about a month before) the only bills I had were cell phone, insurance and car payment.. oh and cc bills.. plus gas and food... but I knew no matter how much/long I saved I wouldn't have enough money to go. Finances is a personal thing and you might not know everything... you don't know how much he makes a week/month/year. you don't know if he has something he's paying towards and how much he pays.
well I had told my MOH I couldn't afford the trip and she got upset.. would dismiss it then bring it up again saying 'we're going to have a blast in fla' and I'd say 'i don't think I can afford it' PLUS all the BMs would have to chip in for HER expense.. and well, two of her BMs (her MOHs actually) were her younger sisters, age 14 and 19... they couldn't pay their own way... so we'd cover them too... unfortunately she and her fiance called off the wedding (kinda- not getting into it). but for those few months I was stressing out trying to figure out how I was going to come up with a few thousand dollars to go away for a weekend, which also included taking time off of work, where I don't get paid.

so, I know it su cks.. but in the BM's defense, you don't know... maybe FH can talk to him, alone... and see if there was anyway for him to just pay for his airfare and hotel... figure out the price and see if he can scrape by, but he might not feel comfortable with it. in that case maybe FH will get two bach. parties.. one in vegas and one local.. like maybe a weekend in the hamptons.
tell your FH I'm sorry you two are going through this!

Thanks so much for all these suggestions.

I will tell FH to sit down with Kieran privately and share these options with him so does not feel hurt or embarassed.

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Posted by Im_My_Own_Princess

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Posted by christine2010

i think in order to keep the friendship, your FH should sit down with him & discuss it. he may live at home & not have any bills other then cell phone, but only as far as u & FH know.

maybe he or his family had some unexpected expenses recently.

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ITA.. my MOH was getting married, she wanted to do her bach. party in fla, and well I couldn't afford airfare, hotel, etc.. and i still live at home, at that point I don't think I was engaged yet (about a month before) the only bills I had were cell phone, insurance and car payment.. oh and cc bills.. plus gas and food... but I knew no matter how much/long I saved I wouldn't have enough money to go. Finances is a personal thing and you might not know everything... you don't know how much he makes a week/month/year. you don't know if he has something he's paying towards and how much he pays.
well I had told my MOH I couldn't afford the trip and she got upset.. would dismiss it then bring it up again saying 'we're going to have a blast in fla' and I'd say 'i don't think I can afford it' PLUS all the BMs would have to chip in for HER expense.. and well, two of her BMs (her MOHs actually) were her younger sisters, age 14 and 19... they couldn't pay their own way... so we'd cover them too... unfortunately she and her fiance called off the wedding (kinda- not getting into it). but for those few months I was stressing out trying to figure out how I was going to come up with a few thousand dollars to go away for a weekend, which also included taking time off of work, where I don't get paid.

so, I know it su cks.. but in the BM's defense, you don't know... maybe FH can talk to him, alone... and see if there was anyway for him to just pay for his airfare and hotel... figure out the price and see if he can scrape by, but he might not feel comfortable with it. in that case maybe FH will get two bach. parties.. one in vegas and one local.. like maybe a weekend in the hamptons.
tell your FH I'm sorry you two are going through this!

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ITA

Maybe they should plan 2 Bparties.

K might be helping his family financially and cant afford the trip. K prob doesnt5 want to be a financial burden on your FH or the other GM.

Sorry your FH has to deal with this, everything will work out

its called a credit card
he can pay it off in may when he has the money