fighting w FH

It seems that the closer we get to the day the more stupid things we fight about. Is anyone else going thru the same thing? I dont know if its the stress of the wedding cause I dont feel stressed at all.

Yup we do too...As a matter of fact, his mother said that she saw a show that explained that this is common for couples planning a wedding.

His parents have been together for 45 years but they went to the courthouse---before all of this planning we didn't get into little nonsense arguments.

Personally, I attribute it to the stress of planning, but we maintain that the planning (financial and other wedding stuff) is great training. We know that stressful times will come our way and we need to be able to handle them.

We will all get through as long as we remember why we are doing this in the first place.

Yes I have that too He keep saying are you sure you want to marry me???? Hmmm sometimes Yes sometimes no... He can be such a PIA.

Yeah we've definately been fighting a lot more than usual... i'm stressed about the planning, we're both stressed about school, i'm stressed about job interviews, and then he's stressed about applying to residency programs... sometimes we have to remind ourselves not to take it out on each other!

Ya, friends and family warned me about this! I have one friend who would fight with her FI every sunday. I have gotten 'the maybe we should pospone the wedding'. I think I am more bitchy because I feel like I am doing everything and he doesn't understand. Then I tell him about it after I do it and he doesn't seem like he listens.

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Posted by missK
It seems that the closer we get to the day the more stupid things we fight about. Is anyone else going thru the same thing? I dont know if its the stress of the wedding cause I dont feel stressed at all.

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Totally normal and yeah you can probably chalk it up to wedding stuff.

Think about it other than planning your wedding what other topic have the two of you talked about with such frequency and in such detail. For those of you who have children, house, condo, the above statement may not hold as true. On more than a few occasions of our wedding planning DH and I had it. I mean HAD IT!Had it with the decisions, details, stressing money, family b.s., surprise guest b.s, too many and these and then of course this.

As a result, I decided to make Sundays our fun day (go to movies, try to cook a new dish, have friends over). The only rule wason Sunday neither of us could bring up the wedding or anything wedding related. We even started to ignore voicemails and the phone because somehow the wedding would be brought up. On no occasion did we ever break this rule. DH says he looked foward to Sundays as a result. HTH

ETA:You will all get through this trust me..I know your probably going this chick is ..it's a worldwind planning a wedding and seeing all the details through...your relationship is tested by things you never thought it would be...you will come out not only stronger but closer...seriously you find yourself giving the same advice once you and your FH are husband and wife . Hang in their ladies your year is literally around the corner
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Posted by jenlen

yeah...i feel like I'm in full PMS mode every day. Everyone annoys me!

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thank God i am not losing it!! i feel the exact same way

I totally agree

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Posted by kns11

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Posted by missK
It seems that the closer we get to the day the more stupid things we fight about. Is anyone else going thru the same thing? I dont know if its the stress of the wedding cause I dont feel stressed at all.

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Totally normal and yeah you can probably chalk it up to wedding stuff.

Think about it other than planning your wedding what other topic have the two of you talked about with such frequency and in such detail. For those of you who have children, house, condo, the above statement may not hold as true. On more than a few occasions of our wedding planning DH and I had it. I mean HAD IT!Had it with the decisions, details, stressing money, family b.s., surprise guest b.s, too many and these and then of course this.

As a result, I decided to make Sundays our fun day (go to movies, try to cook a new dish, have friends over). The only rule wason Sunday neither of us could bring up the wedding or anything wedding related. We even started to ignore voicemails and the phone because somehow the wedding would be brought up. On no occasion did we ever break this rule. DH says he looked foward to Sundays as a result. HTH

ETA:You will all get through this trust me..I know your probably going this chick is ..it's a worldwind planning a wedding and seeing all the details through...your relationship is tested by things you never thought it would be...you will come out not only stronger but closer...seriously you find yourself giving the same advice once you and your FH are husband and wife . Hang in their ladies your year is literally around the corner
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agreed....we dont fight so much about the wedding b/c we went through other things prior (like you said) and learned how to deal with these situations. Wedding planning now for us is just fun and of course stressful....but thankfully we have learned each other these 2 years we've lived together.

we bicker at one another, but I think we're learning how to quickly say its not worth fighting since this is all for confessing our love to one another in the eyes of god!! Each day I just grow more excited and can't wait, and the less we have to get done the more excited I get lol

But I think the stress of everything is going to get tempers boiling at some point!