fighting with parents, so i maybe selfish with this

uh...sorry for it being so long. vent..

Brian and I got engaged Sept 13. My mom right away started planning the e-party. Then she said she was going to throw it after the new year so it wouldnt interfear with the holidays.

Then she pushed it again to March, now april. She swears its going to be April 26.

My dad surprised her with a vacation for this september that is half paid off.

So i made a comment to my mom that said 'oh so you can plan a vacation that is 7 months away, but i've been engaged for 5 months and you haven't done squat for the e-party that is supposedly in 2 months'

Mind you everyday I've been asking her what has she done.

So my dad calls me and yells at me that i need to relax and lay off about this party. I'll get one but there are a lot more important things going on right now. I said apparently so if you can book a vacation for septmeber.

I dont think he liked that, because he said 'well between me getting diagnosed with diabetis, my mother dying, the selling of the condo, the lawyers, the nurses trying to sue my brother and I, the last thing i need is you hassling your mother every 5 minutes about a stupid party'

I said well dont make promises you cant keep.

He said you'll get the party, you need to relax.

i hung up on him. i just couldnt deal.

IF FI and I had the money we would throw it ourselves, but we just dont have the money for such a thing and besides my mother promised us a an e-party. We arent wanting the party for the gifts, i could care less about the gifts. The only time i see my family is weddings and funerals. Brian sees his dad's side of the family once a year, i am not lying yes once a year. So for us the e-party is about having everyone together and seeing everyone.
and for some reason my parents just dont see it that way.

But they can go ahead and book a vacation for september spur of the moment, but i am engaged for 5 months and planning the e-party gets to be put off until its convient for them.

uh!!

Ok Melissa, that is why we are here so that you can vent. Everything will work out. Just remember that we all love you.

I know..it just fustrates me that they havent done a thing but make up a guest list.

Thanks

It sounds like they have a lot going on right now. Maybe they really need a vacation to take a break from it all. I'm sure that the party is important to them and everything will work out.

Thanks everyone. I spoke to my dad again and he explained to me everything that is going on. I said to him well if mom told me all of this to begin with I would have layed off, but she told me nothing so how am I suppose to know whats going on if no one tells me anything.

He felt bad. There is a lot going on but its mostly with my grandmothers estate. They are trying to sell the condo, but there is just so much going on.

He didnt mean to blow up at me, it was just one of those days where whatever could go wrong, did.

Thanks everyone for letting me vent I do feel better

Melissa I understand how you feel but it sounds like your parents have alot on their plates right now and to me, it sounds like they really need a vacation.

Is it very important to you to have an E party? I didn't have one (didn't want one). What matters most is that you're engaged to Brian and that your dad gets well & gets medicine & takes care of himself first.

I argue with my dad every day about him going to the doctor to take care of himself, this is more important to me than anything else, even my own wedding.

Sorry to be a bummer but give them time, sounds like they need it.

Jenn thanks. Everything is cool so far. My dad is really stressed out. Its not an excuse to blow up, but I just had to take a step back and see that the picture is a lot bigger then it appears to be. We talked and now that I know whats going on, I am a lot more understanding.

He assured me it will happen, but I just have to be patient.

Thanks everyone

Melissa, your Eparty will be great!!!!

I am glad you talked to your father again and things are calmer. I am sure your e-party will happen and be great