FIL Issues
Okay, I think I need to vent and get some feedback on FMIL problems I'm having.
FH and I are paying for and organizing this wedding ourselves. My parents gave me the money I would have had for a wedding awhile ago for graduate school several years ago. With no FH on the horizon at the time, I took it, and was so glad they offered, and it helped me tremendously.
His family has offered no $$ for the wedding, which honestly, I would be okay with. What bothers me is the lack of help from his parents end overall, and lack of communication with my family. My parents live out of the area, and they have not met yet. My mother wrote a lovely letter to my FILs, and they did not even respond! FH asked about it, and his mother seemed surprised that this was necessary. He asked if she would help me write the invitations (she does calligraphy), and she said no rather vehemently. Granted, it's a lot of work, but a more polite no would have gone over better with me. Awhile ago, she mentioned helping with decorations, but when I brought it up recently, she had changed her mind. Now, they seem to be dragging their heels on the rehearsal dinner as well, and I think FH and I might need to organize (and pay for) that as well. There have been other little things, but those are the main ones.
My FIL have generally been pretty uninvolved in their son's life from what I can tell, so I don't feel as if this is unusual behavior on their part, but I wish they would at least organize a small rehearsal dinner and respond to my parent's letter! I think I need to bring this up with FH, but how to do it without trashing his family?
FH and I are paying for and organizing this wedding ourselves. My parents gave me the money I would have had for a wedding awhile ago for graduate school several years ago. With no FH on the horizon at the time, I took it, and was so glad they offered, and it helped me tremendously.
His family has offered no $$ for the wedding, which honestly, I would be okay with. What bothers me is the lack of help from his parents end overall, and lack of communication with my family. My parents live out of the area, and they have not met yet. My mother wrote a lovely letter to my FILs, and they did not even respond! FH asked about it, and his mother seemed surprised that this was necessary. He asked if she would help me write the invitations (she does calligraphy), and she said no rather vehemently. Granted, it's a lot of work, but a more polite no would have gone over better with me. Awhile ago, she mentioned helping with decorations, but when I brought it up recently, she had changed her mind. Now, they seem to be dragging their heels on the rehearsal dinner as well, and I think FH and I might need to organize (and pay for) that as well. There have been other little things, but those are the main ones.
My FIL have generally been pretty uninvolved in their son's life from what I can tell, so I don't feel as if this is unusual behavior on their part, but I wish they would at least organize a small rehearsal dinner and respond to my parent's letter! I think I need to bring this up with FH, but how to do it without trashing his family?
