FILs... can't we all just get along?!?

I'm sorry that you are going through this.

It is a terrible feeling to not feel wanted or accepted by your future in-laws.


All I have is this advice, since I have experienced disappointments from my own family.

Expect nothing from FH's famiy. Expect absolutely not one thing. No encouragement, no gifts, no help, nothing.

And then if they end up doing something, no matter how small. It will be a pleasant surprise.

It's sad to think that is has to come down to that. But it in my experience, it really is the best way to not get hurt.

good luck!!!

i am sorry you are dealing with this but maybe them not wanting to chip in for one gift isn't meant in a bad way.

Some people want to give you something from them personally. Instead of here is a gift from all of us. Maybe to them it has more meaning if they get you something themselves that they picked out.

Even if i did chip in for a gift i would honestly also buy the bride my own gift to her so its a bit more personal.

You should read my post on ettiquette! ( maybe your FIL's should)

This is a time when everything should be all about you. But it isn't. People can be such jerks, I am stggling with so much of what you are going through right now.

I hope things get easier for you. Lord only knows at least once a monthI want to scream 'EF you' to my family and inlaws and elope anyway!