AHHHHHHH, it happened to me!! NEVER thought I would be dealing with this AT ALL……..
I emailed my MOH to see how things were going and if there were any issues that I needed to know about. She said everything has been great except the other in-town BM (I have 6 OOT BM, and 2 in town). I asked her what the problems were that she was having. She told me that she didn’t want to stress me out……but I insisted on her telling me.
Apparently all of the bridesmaids have been helping plan the bridal shower and the bachlorette party, except for this one BM. This is what she put in an email to my MOH about helping:
“call me if you need help, but I'm pretty busy', so I'll just pay my part when things are over....
Now I’m kind of bothered by this for SEVERAL reasons, but the main reason because to me, it just shows that she is not interested in helping with the planning at all. I don’t know……..maybe I shouldn’t be mad…..who knows. BUT it does bother me for some reason! UGH! SOOOOOOO annoying!!!
So this happened about 2 weeks ago and I’ve been sending her emails and voicemails, and have received NOTHING back.
Ugh, I don’t know…….Guess I just needed to vent……..I just don’t understand it……
AlliCatB
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dear God, why don't people help with the planning?
same issues over here - I've become a one man band. At least the other BMs are pulling it off for you!
vmystique33
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I am so sorry that you have to deal with this some people are just so self centered But thank god the rest of your BP is pulling together
eperlman
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That really stinks... and even worse she hasn't returned your calls or messages!! People can be selfish...
bonniejd
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I spoke to my MOH today and apparently she is stuck doing EVERYTHING with the help of one other BM (I have 7 in total!!!) so frustrating!
rkl1130
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I am so sorry that you have to deal with people like that. I have a BM who only talks about herself and what her and her boyfriend want to do, so when my MOH suggests something she says it's a great idea but her and her boyfriend want this....
What's good is that all your other BMs are pulling together and helping out.
billandme
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Posted by bonniejd
I spoke to my MOH today and apparently she is stuck doing EVERYTHING with the help of one other BM (I have 7 in total!!!) so frustrating!
Yes it is!!!! GRRRRRRRRR
I KNOW I would be all over this kind of thing for her if it was her wedding..........!
But, people are different and I just have to accept that I have a self centered BM.........BLAH!
tricia3381
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what are u going to say to her when she calls you back? i would ask ur MOH if shes ok with you talking to her about she told u. heres some
PurpleGrl156
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I can empathize with both you and your MOH. Same thing happened to me when I was the MOH for my best friend's wedding except I had not one, but two nasty biznatches to deal with! Neither one of them helped me with anything except give me aggrivation. They both had the balls to tell my best friend after the wedding that they didn't she was a good friend GRRRR!!!!
I can't understand people sometimes. Her answer that she is busy all of the time smells bad since we are all busy! Esp you w/ your planning. You shouldn't have to deal with this. I think after your wedding is over, you may want to re-evaluate your relationship w/ her - she doesn't sound like a good friend.
hunnybunnyxoxo
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oh, there is nothing worse than BM drama! Lord knows i had my share. I even went as far as to kick her out ( but we made up and she is back in)
I am sorry but we all pick our bms for a reason and when they let us down for stupid reasons, we have a right to be upset. There is nothing worse than a cranky bm that whines about dresses or whines about helping out. Its apart of your job B**ch!
you have a right to be upset. I would try to keep an eye on her and maybe confront her if you feel you cant take it anymore...
good luck!!
billandme
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Posted by tricia3381
what are u going to say to her when she calls you back? i would ask ur MOH if shes ok with you talking to her about she told u. heres some
I don't have a clue! I dont' want to put my MOH in an awkward position though......
faithandkevin
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That is annoying. I think there's one in every party! Then why did she even say yes, you know?
BubbasBride
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That's absurd. I don't care how busy someone is. There is always a few minutes somewhere to call a friend back or to try and help out with wedding plans. If someone's life is that busy, she shouldn't have agreed to be in your wedding.
