I posted on this already but I feel like I made a mistake by picking who's in my bridal party. FH suggested we just have MOH and BM but I insisted that people would be upset if I didnt ask them. At this point the only one that is involved is my MOH and I am contimplating just telling everyone else that I want to make it smaller. I have one 'friend' that is upset I didnt make her the MOH and whenever I ask her to do something shes always got other plans or the best she lies. I caught her in one. Its just been one big mess since the day i decided. I want to just tell them I love you all but save your money and time and just party with us instead...
Melissa313
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have you tried talking to them? tell them that the reason you chose to have them in your BP is becasue you want to honor them on your big day, if they have no interest in you wedding then you dont need them in a place of honor like that. leave it up to them, if they dont step up they have to step down!
kBr
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ugh i feel your pain! i have had problems with my bridal party since day one. i finally have it the way i want it i guess. the original party got screwed up when my FH's brother and his wife decided to get divorced. she was going to be a BM.. not anymore. then my brother and his girlfriend broke up. so she was out too. i was down 2 bridesmaids. i only had one other girl in mind that i had wanted in the wedding to begin with anyway... so i asked her and she accepted. but i just dont have anyone else i really want in the party. so now my bridal party is- MOH, 2 BMs, 2 FGs and a female ring bearer.. i just decided to do what i want! i dont care what anyone says lol. my MOH will walk down the aisle with FH's brother (best man) and my brother (groomsman). and the other 2 GMs will walk with the other 2 BMS. i think its cool because its like the 2 families being joined together.. make sense? so my advice to you is to do what YOU want... dont ask someone just so you dont upset them. good luck!
Kimbalina
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I would have a sit down with these other people. Let them know how important they are to you and FH. Tell them their 'responosibilites' maybe they dont know what is important to you! FIX It... but really with them!
TakingtheLongWay
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Posted by Kimbalina
I would have a sit down with these other people. Let them know how important they are to you and FH. Tell them their 'responosibilites' maybe they dont know what is important to you! FIX It... but really with them!
Great advice, Kim said it perfectly! But, on a side note...is that your dog in your avatar? Because I am obsessed with it!!!!
missK
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thanks girls.. I think I will sit with them and see what happens. If I tell them how I feel maybe it will work its way out. I just feel sick about it.
the pup is s pic I found and fell in love with it .. What a character dont you think?
yelley77
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It is your day and you should not be stressing any part of it, so if your BP is causing un-necessary stress, then just have a MOH and BM.
It's supposed to be enjoyable!
missK
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Posted by yelley77
It is your day and you should not be stressing any part of it, so if your BP is causing un-necessary stress, then just have a MOH and BM.
It's supposed to be enjoyable!
Thanks I just spoke to FFIL and hes so cute telling me to say hes spending too much money on the wedding and cant afford them.. hes so sweet Funny thing is FH and I are paying for the wedding.. Then I thought ...... Wait did I just miss something???
Cntthinkofone
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Ughh why does bridal party have to be such a pain in the *** lol. I just posted a Angry vent today about what my cousin just did to me which was soo messed up so shes out. Do what you feel is best for you bc you are the one who is dealing with the stress. Talk to them and tell them how you feel see how they react.
bemyyoko
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i would have a sit down with them, talk to them about everything, and then see where they stand. explain what you need them to do and then if they can't be there for you, tell them to just come and party b/c you dont need the stress.
bella1028
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I def. would sit and talk to them. One of my BM has never been before and said she actually looked up responsibilities of BM( which I thought was really cute and I apprectiated the effort). Ya never know, maybe it isn't the case, but since you obviously care about these people, try to see if they really just do not have a clue what their job description as BM is...I wish you the best...good luck
