My MOH has a daughter who would be about 18 months around the time of my wedding. She is barely crawling yet now at 8 months. I feel funny about not asking the MOH about her being the one of the FG's because her son is one of my ring bearers. I don't care so much about if she gets down the aisle - she can walk with her brother. Im just on the fence with the age thing. Anyone else having a very young flower girl?
Pulling a flower girl in a wagon is NOT NOT NOT an option. I just DO NOT like the way it looks.
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My friend had one that was 22 months. She made it about three steps down the aisle, went back to her mom who tried to walk her down and then she had enough and sat down on the ground. I think younger then 2 is too young.
jantany26
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when my day comes my daughter will be around 20 months and she will be in the wedding.
Laura1976
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my niece is almost 18 months old and my mother would love to have her be the flower girl, but there is no way that she'd be able to focus long enough to get down an 80 foot long aisle. My mom even tried practicing with her and after about 5 steps she loses total interest and stops and just starts laughing at everyone looking at her.
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My FG is my neice and she'll be 3 at our wedding. I'm that she can do this, but it's not a big deal. Her main duty is to look cute, which I know she can handle and she's a ham in front of the camera. Her bro is going to be 2 which I had thought about making a ring bearer but I decided against it bc there's more responsibility there. The RB being older is ok cause he escorts the FG and I think you'll be ok, but I don't want to do it the other way around. A cousin of mine was a FG when she was 2 and she did fine. It depends on how 'perfect' you want everything to go, what you're expecting from her, and how well you can handle any 'mistakes'.
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My son is 2 years old and would not walk down the aisle by himself. He walked down with my mom instead. I think under the age of 3 is too young
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I really dont care about it being perfect. The truth of the matter is that since I am last down the aisle, that i won't see anything. If they make it they make it. If they don't they dont. But I think to put a family at an expense for a FG dress that she might have an accident in and not use at all might be asking too much.
Goldi1021
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You guys are great - thanks for the feedback.
cindyandkevin
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That's true and I completely understand about the $$. I was looking at some really cute FG dresses at the Attias flea market last week and they weren't expensive at all! I know my bro and SIL are on a tight budget (and they live upstate where the income is lower than on LI), plus he's gonna be an usher. I know of another bride (tomorrow!) who got her FG dress there and I'll prob get my jr. BM dress there too. Nobody will ever know that you didn't buy it at a bridal salon!
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I wanted to ask my MOH to decide for herself if she thought her daughter would be up to the task. She may feel bad about saying no. The other issue will be when I tell my mother I want to ask an 18 month old. She thinks its too young. Yes I know it is my day, but mom like to throw the line 'But I am paying for the' around. It could get ugly.
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Is this bad??...My flower girl will be 9 yrs old
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I really think it depends on the child. I've seen toddlers who are just fine and five year olds who just won't do it. Do you really want her to be a part of the wedding, or is it because she's the only little girl around? I wouldn't have one just to have one JMO
Goldi1021
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No, I already have another flower girl. It would be great to have her as part of the bridal party and had she been 2 or three, there would be no question. So it is NOT just to have one. The other flower girl will be 2 months shy of three years old at the time of the wedding and has already been a flower girl. In fact, when I asked her to be MY flower girl, she asked her mother to get out the silk petals to practice all over again and started throwing flowers on the floor.
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Posted by Goldi1021 The other flower girl will be 2 months shy of three years old at the time of the wedding and has already been a flower girl. In fact, when I asked her to be MY flower girl, she asked her mother to get out the silk petals to practice all over again and started throwing flowers on the floor.
I wouldn't have the younger then. Good luck!
Goldi1021
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I think you are right. I still feel bad about not having her. My friends need to breed a little faster don't you think?
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Posted by KimmyKim7481
Is this bad??...My flower girl will be 9 yrs old
My FI daughter is going to be 9 and he originally wanted her to be FG. But instead we're having her as jr BM bc I thought that was more grown-up and we want her to feel really special. But I was FG for my uncle when I was 8 and my aunt had her neice when she was 9. So there's nothing wrong with it IMO.
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I wanted to make my brothers daughters (12 and 14 at the wedding) Jr Bridesmaids but my brother asked me to cut the Jr out because they would feel more mature. I said it was fine. I will not, however, put teenaged girls in sexy dresses. They will NOT wear anything strapless or body hugging. I think it is inappropriate.
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My nephew was 18 months at our wedding, and we decided not to include him in the wedding party. I think we made the right decision. Besides him being sick with a fever that day, he was delayed in his motor development and wasn't walking at all yet.
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my newphew was one of our ring bearers and he was 16 months.. but he had help from his older brothers.. just be aware that they will probably need a nap at some point in the day. luckily he had a nap just before the church so he was in a good mood and willing to cooperate, then he napped again between our ceremony and reception and was not in our pics.. but understandable..
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I agree with the opinion that it depends on the child, but I would say no younger than 4. My friend had her 2-3 y.o cousin and the child was so disruptive during the mass, and then a big PITA when it came time for photos (according to the bride, I wasn't there.) I didn't want kids in my wedding, but another reason I didn't ask is that my 6 y.o. niece would have behaved wonderfully, where my 4 y.o. niece would not.
