FMIL....

Soon2BeMrs Posted: Sep 28, 2006 11:43 PM

FMIL....

are you honoring your FMIL in any way or just your mother?

sarahradio5 Posted: Sep 28, 2006 11:51 PM

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Soon2BeMrs Posted: Sep 28, 2006 11:52 PM

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Posted by sarahradio5

NO

sorry about your problems with her....has it always been that way? My FMIL and i have a great relationship i wonder if it will stay that when we really start doing more plans for the wedding.

sarahradio5 Posted: Sep 28, 2006 11:56 PM

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Posted by Soon2BeMrs

Posted by sarahradio5

NO

sorry about your problems with her....has it always been that way? My FMIL and i have a great relationship i wonder if it will stay that when we really start doing more plans for the wedding.

No... sorry to be bitter tonight. She actually is usually my confidante when it comes to me and my FH. But every now and then she surprises me. Such as with this wedding. She said in the beginning that anything she could do to help my parents with the wedding finances, let her know. When I asked my FH to ask her how much she meant, she said she never said that. And it's been all downhill from there. Tonight's episode is the straw that broke the camel's back... just too nervy for me to get past... for now anyway. I'm just so upset. I really hope you and your FMIL stay as close as you are! I'm sure you will! It's just so upsetting how much crap rises to the surface with weddings!

Soon2BeMrs Posted: Sep 28, 2006 11:59 PM

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Posted by sarahradio5

Posted by Soon2BeMrs

Posted by sarahradio5

NO

sorry about your problems with her....has it always been that way? My FMIL and i have a great relationship i wonder if it will stay that when we really start doing more plans for the wedding.

No... sorry to be bitter tonight. She actually is usually my confidante when it comes to me and my FH. But every now and then she surprises me. Such as with this wedding. She said in the beginning that anything she could do to help my parents with the wedding finances, let her know. When I asked my FH to ask her how much she meant, she said she never said that. And it's been all downhill from there. Tonight's episode is the straw that broke the camel's back... just too nervy for me to get past... for now anyway. I'm just so upset. I really hope you and your FMIL stay as close as you are! I'm sure you will! It's just so upsetting how much crap rises to the surface with weddings!

I know what you mean i have seen several friends go through the same thing. I hope it all calms down for you soon and its no help that your FH isnt supporative. She is the one disrespecting you so dont back down otherwise she will continue to walk all over you

NY031978 Posted: Sep 29, 2006 12:06 AM

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honor her for what?????

maybe BIGGEST Pain in the ASSSSSS Award!!!!!! Thats about it!!!!! ERRRRRRRRR im so mad at his family right now!!!!!!!!

sarahradio5 Posted: Sep 29, 2006 12:08 AM

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Posted by NY031978

honor her for what?????

maybe BIGGEST Pain in the ASSSSSS Award!!!!!! Thats about it!!!!! ERRRRRRRRR im so mad at his family right now!!!!!!!!

AMEN!!!

poor girl's asking the wrong people right now!!

NY031978 Posted: Sep 29, 2006 12:10 AM

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haha i know right! Sorry......im just so fed up w. them! I feel like telling them they arent invited!! Now that will be a fun fight

sfmullen Posted: Sep 29, 2006 12:13 AM

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at least your FMIL's know what a wedding is! mY FH is from England and his family is CLUELESS I dont think they know what is in store and they have not offered to pay ANYTHING But his sister did some research and told them they are to throw the RD so they are thats it

NY031978 Posted: Sep 29, 2006 12:15 AM

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his family isnt even doing the RD!

just another expense for us!

sfmullen Posted: Sep 29, 2006 12:19 AM

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Posted by NY031978

his family isnt even doing the RD!

just another expense for us!

Are they in a finacial situation to do that? If not they suck!

XFINALLYX Posted: Sep 29, 2006 03:22 AM

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H E L L NO!!!!

glinda_goodwitch Posted: Sep 29, 2006 07:42 AM

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well, I did the same for my ILs that I did for my parents. Obviously they walked down the aisle, got announed at the reception, and had dances (my dad and MIL) with their children (DH and I). But other than giving both sets of parents gifts at the RD, we didn't do anything special. Both moms got flowrs to either wear or hold, but I think that is standard. Oh, and both sets of parents got songs played that they requested.

But specifically for your mom or MIL, I'm not sure what you would want to do. What did you have in mind?

ant n tilde Posted: Sep 29, 2006 09:56 AM

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Posted by glinda_goodwitch

well, I did the same for my ILs that I did for my parents. Obviously they walked down the aisle, got announed at the reception, and had dances (my dad and MIL) with their children (DH and I). But other than giving both sets of parents gifts at the RD, we didn't do anything special. Both moms got flowrs to either wear or hold, but I think that is standard. Oh, and both sets of parents got songs played that they requested.

But specifically for your mom or MIL, I'm not sure what you would want to do. What did you have in mind?

i am basically doing the same stuff - anything i am doing for my parents I am doing for his parents

even putting both sets on the invites even though his parents arent helping us and my parents are only helping out with certain things . . .

chrissyandvin Posted: Sep 29, 2006 09:58 AM

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YES!! I happen to get along great with mine!! She is like a second mother to me! I will be giving her flowers that night to her and my mother!

rojerono Posted: Sep 29, 2006 10:49 AM

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I am getting a corsage for my FMIL and she will be taking a limo with FH. I was considering having a little dedication song played for her and my FFIL since they are GREAT dancers.

futrmrsblt Posted: Sep 29, 2006 10:57 AM

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I will be honoring both mothers during the ceremony...
pastor april suggested a 'rose ceremony' and here's the jist of it...
i may think my fmil is nutty sometimes but she made my FH what he is today hehe.. so ill honor both of them...

Rose Ceremony

“Patricia and Patricia, as the future comes from the past, know that without you this day would not be taking place. As we all know marriage is a coming together of two lives and a celebration of the love of two people. But it is also so more. The love that Christi and Brett feel for one another is the flowering of a seed planted by you in their hearts years ago. The very reason they know how to give and receive love itself is a direct result of the love that they were shown by you as they grew into the man and woman that we see here today. Simply by being who you each are you have allowed and created the fertile ground from which all you see around you has blossomed. Your children love you very much and thought that now would be the perfect time to remind you of this, by offering you these symbols of eternal love, these roses.”

The Bride and Grooms mothers are presented each with a rose

“May you be blessed with many healthy happy years of watching the next generation thrive.”

cindyandkevin Posted: Sep 29, 2006 10:57 AM

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Well our situation is a lil different.

My MIL had passed away so we had a memorial candle for her. Then we asked DH's aunt to stand in her honor, she wore a corsage and was one of the last to be seated (along with my grandparents). We made mention of this in our programs so that she would be recognized.

At the reception we had DH's aunt introduced along with everyone else. We had the memorial candle sitting on the table behind us. DH danced with his aunt but it wasn't a spotlight dance.