FMIL and I had it out...Long, sorry
So if you've read my posts, you know my FMIL is difficult to deal with. Last weekend was my shower and it was at her house. She didn't socialize with anyone and didn't even sit and watch me open presents. Everyone commented on how she was acting. She says the other day that she wants one of my BMs sisters invited to the RD because 'she did more than anyone else for the shower'. Now, that BM came early to help set up, and her sis came with her. I'm friends with the sis but not close or anything. She didn't even give me a gift for the shower. So I politely explained the RD is for BP and family only and is our opportunity to thank them for their help. She sends me a nasty e-mail back that started with 'well let me make myself clear'. She told FH before I even saw it that she sent me an e-mail and there's going to be a fight. So I called her to try to work it out and when I say the sis can't came, FMIL begins cursing me out and says her and FFIL aren't coming to the RD, we can have our own little party, now she's not paying for it, we won't get a cent out of her for the wedding, etc etc etc. I said, this is getting ridiculous and is supposed to be about FH and I, no one else, it's my wedding and I have the right to make choices, etc. She starts in with that she asked to be seated next to my family table at the wedding, and I said no because the groom's side has to go on one side and the bride's on the other and she's mad that I won't bend and let them sit near each other. She says things weren't like that when she got married so she doesn't know where I got that. And then it gets really good because she starts taking digs at my family. When my cousin RSVPed for the shower, FMIL told her how she has to have a histerectamy (sp?) and my cousin said something to FH about it, just expressing her concern for FMIL. Well, FH wasn't supposed to know until after the wedding, so my cousin apologized to her at the shower for having said something. So now FMIL is saying she can't trust anyone, my cousin is a blabbermouth, etc. HELLO! Why would you tell someone you don't know something like that. She then complained that my mother is loud and she doesn't need that around her. And she compained because my mom didn't wake up till 12 the day of the shower, and my shower started at 1 so she was a little late and so was my sis because they were together. First off, my mom flew in from FL the day before. Second, she's on 30 medications for her strokes and they knock her out. When I explain this, FMIL says she doesn't care. She complained because there were people in her house that she didn't know. Hello, you're the one who wanted the shower at your house! She took digs at other people in my family, said my mom tried starting a fight with her, when she didn't at all. Now FH went over there to mvoe his work truck into the driveway like she asked and she started screaming at him, repeating everything she said to me last night, telling him he's wrapped around my finger, and that she's cancelling the RD, nto coming tot he wedding, etc.
OMG why does this woman have to be like this? She says it's supposed to be a happy time and it's nothing but a disaster. HELLO! You're the one making it a disaster. My family doesn't understand why I was so calm with her on the phone and let her go on and on. The only reason I was is because she has no one and so I knew she was just dumping all of her problems on me, and FHs brother and fiance don't talk to her, so I didn't want her to feel like I was pulling FH away from her. If anything, I wanted her to feel like she was gaining a daughter. I don't know what to do to appease this woman. She has to control everything. I feel so bad for FH because he's stuck int he middle, as much as I'm trying to keep him from it. And, we can't afford the remainder of the wedding costs so I don't know what we're going to do.![]()
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OMG why does this woman have to be like this? She says it's supposed to be a happy time and it's nothing but a disaster. HELLO! You're the one making it a disaster. My family doesn't understand why I was so calm with her on the phone and let her go on and on. The only reason I was is because she has no one and so I knew she was just dumping all of her problems on me, and FHs brother and fiance don't talk to her, so I didn't want her to feel like I was pulling FH away from her. If anything, I wanted her to feel like she was gaining a daughter. I don't know what to do to appease this woman. She has to control everything. I feel so bad for FH because he's stuck int he middle, as much as I'm trying to keep him from it. And, we can't afford the remainder of the wedding costs so I don't know what we're going to do.
