never in a million years did i think i would get a MIL like her... FSIL got married 4 years ago...i mean didnt she go through this whole marrriage process thing when it came to her daughter?? didnt she want her daughter's inlaws to be nicee?? so now that the time has come for her sons wedding...why than is she so BIZZARE
i think she still thinks of FH as her 'little boy' and im the other woman
sorry just needed to vent guys
UPDATE: so yesterday was my shower...it was beautifulllllllllll.....my MOH and my mom always knew i didnt want a big shower.... even though im having 400 ppl at the wedding they only invited the closest ppl to the shower there were about 35 ppl there...all family n friends
so the time given to everyone was 4:00pm...so we could hang out..chat/talk/ play games /dance...before dinner.....well FSIL and FMIL came at 6:30!!!!!! .... 2 and a half ours late?? i can even understand coming at 5! but that late...i was so embarassed everyone was wondering where they were..... and when she finally came..she gave everyone an attitude and barely said Hi to me
i wanted to CRY....i didnt tell FH this...all we do is than fight about it...
amytee
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so sorry to hear your pain! that stinks
Mooshyboo
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awww i am sorry sweetie!
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omg she is ridiculous! I had major issues with FSIL and it took a toll on our relationship she is finally better bc FMIL spoke to her and said you are hurting me not just Melissa me and my relationship with my son so she is behaving.
I understand why u are so upset and my heart goes out to u. I hope things get better and your FMIL can get over herself and treat u with the love and respect u deserve !
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im so sorry you are going through this. I couldnt imagine since i love my fmil immensely..
But, can i say just one thing? I believe this one and previous posts you say fh and you fight about her...I think he needs to take your side now since you are his fiancee... i think getting married its only going to get worse
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right there with you. she doesn't think about anyone but herself and it's the FMIL show all the time.
FMIL show that was simply fantastic I'm sorry you are dealing with this at a time in your life where family and future family should be eliminating stress not creating it.
I have been tolerating my FMIL & 2 FSIL for almost 5 years. It has not gotten better with time as FH hoped and said it would. It finally came out this year they felt like they lost him as a family member. Did they think he'd be around to lift heavy stuff, and take out his sisters for the rest of his life. Just this year I've gotten closer to his grandmother (FMIL MIL) and it's killing FMIL. She is now jealous & wants to know why we are not hanging out. My mother gave me the best advice I'm still trying to practice, let it roll over you and be emotionless and she will eventually get tired of not getting to you.
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I'm sorry to hear about them showing up so late at your shower!! They should be embarassed for showing up so late!!
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she is jealous because she is not his #1 girl anymore, but she should not treat u that way. ohhh i better not get started just be sure to remain the better person and not to stoop to her lows.
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Sorry to hear about your aggravation. FH's step mom snubbed everyone at my shower too. My friends and family said hello to her and she looked the other way.
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Hi sweetie; i'm new to the boards but have been lurking for a while. SO SORRY to hear about this, it just s*cks... BUT please remember, her ridiculous behavior is NOT ABOUT YOU!!! That's the tough part - letting people act as inappropriately as they want to and NOT being embarassed or taking it personally. Its a reflection on her, and her ALONE. Your FH suffers the repercussions too, even though he may handle it differently. Worst mistake is to let her cause fights between you - then she gets the reward, i.e. 'divide & conquer'!!! I know that may not help much but wanted to pass on my best wishes to you and FH
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Sara you've been on my mind today. I hope you are feeling better today. Here's a bit more advice. Like Scott says we will not let people who are nasty, cruel, rude, or simply jealous change who we are as individuals and who we are as a couple, or try to come between the love we found and continue to celebrate. We just spend time with those that embrace and help our love grow more and those that do not simply get invites(w/ option to decline) to all wedding related events. HTH
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Sorry that the most exciting time of your life is roadblocked by this women. You need to take a stand now b/c it will never change. It will only get worse when you have children. Well if she was 2++ hours late for the shower maybe she'll do you guys a huge favor and be double the time late to the wedding. = Less aggravation for you!
My FH is an only child and I was very skeptical about they mommy boy thing in the beginning since my prior relationship was ruined b/c of that. But I really have lucked out and his parents are so good to us. I hope it will always be that way.
Cheer up!!!!! =)
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Im sorry that they showed up late-they should be embarrassed by their behavior. Being rude at your shower to guests is not the way to 'make friends' or 'get to know anyone'
If it makes you feel better a key element of my BP walked into my shower practically in PJs-no makeup-and with a puss on that could kill! EVERYONE wanted to know what her problem was...just remember that everyone there knows she acted and behaved wrong
