FMIL & FH drama!

pinkgirl Posted: Jul 24, 2004 05:31 PM

FMIL & FH drama!

Basically, my fmil has been looking for a dress and finally brought me to the place to try it on. Not only is it BLACK but it is SO ordinary. I could see 5 people walk in with the same thing! But she loves it. SO I said it was nice, etc but wasn't bubbling over. I was hoping it would change her mind, but it didn't. So she called my fh today and told him that she hopes I am not disappointed. Now HE is giving me crap about how she can get whatever she wants and its not all about me!!! I want to kill them both right now!!!!!

Nora101004 Posted: Jul 24, 2004 05:43 PM

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My FMIL refuses to order a dress that is in the size the salon tells her b/c she's a smaller size, so I can relate.

Does the dress come in any other colors? Did you tell your FMIL that you don't want anyone wearing black? Blame it on the photographer- tell her its too hard to get the black and white in the same picture.

Does the dress come in other colors? Can you order her a shawl in another color? Maybe once she gets her hair done with nice jewelery, it will come together.

JenniferLee111204 Posted: Jul 24, 2004 05:46 PM

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I AM GOING THROUGH THE SAAAAAAME THING. only with my mom and my FMIL. OMG. give me a break. they are driving me absolutely crazy. my FMIL wants to wear - and i am NOT kidding - a sequined MOO MOO!! its not funny!! she showed it to me today!!!

Jennifer

pinkgirl Posted: Jul 24, 2004 05:52 PM

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It comes in EVERY color of the rainbow!!! But she likes black. My family is definitely going to be commenting...
I am trying to convince myself not to care, since I have so much other stuff to deal with....

butterfly20 Posted: Jul 24, 2004 06:19 PM

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well.... if she wants to look ordinary it is no reflection of you....people will comment on her bland outfit, not on your wedding which will be wonderful

pinkgirl Posted: Jul 24, 2004 06:34 PM

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awww thanks I just don't want people to make any bad comments

LImom Posted: Jul 24, 2004 07:14 PM

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I fully understand and agree with you that she should be wearing something special and festive looking that shows her happiness for her son's wedding, and not in black. But it's obviously she is happy with her choice and aware that you didn't like it. Any more said would cause trouble. I suggest you let it go. As already stated, it's no reflection on you. She may show it to other people as well and they may talk her out of it.

JPC1125 Posted: Jul 24, 2004 07:36 PM

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I think black gets a bad rap as a color of mourning....personally I would rather my mom wear that since its more elegant and slimming.

Just one piece of advice I've learned over the years that applies here:

Everyone is too busy worrying about themselves to spend their time commenting on anyone else.

I vote for letting your FMIL be comfy cause one day you will be in her position and probably wont want to be told or made to feel bad for what you want to wear. JMHO- dont kill me!

regi Posted: Jul 24, 2004 07:41 PM

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Posted by JenniferLee111204

I AM GOING THROUGH THE SAAAAAAME THING. only with my mom and my FMIL. OMG. give me a break. they are driving me absolutely crazy. my FMIL wants to wear - and i am NOT kidding - a sequined MOO MOO!! its not funny!! she showed it to me today!!!

Jennifer

I am sorry. Aren;t fmil the worst??

mosh913 Posted: Jul 24, 2004 07:50 PM

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I think black is very elegant. My mom wore black to mt sisters wedding. It will be fine. If that's what she wants to wear, there is really nothing you can do about it without seeming like a major bridezilla. JMO though. :)

LADYLUV69 Posted: Jul 24, 2004 07:50 PM

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hey, it could be worst. be thankful she does not want to wear white!! that would really suck. if people talk about her or well. I would not worry about it too much b/c you know what you'll be wearing.

Butterflybride Posted: Jul 24, 2004 08:28 PM

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Posted by JenniferLee111204

I AM GOING THROUGH THE SAAAAAAME THING. only with my mom and my FMIL. OMG. give me a break. they are driving me absolutely crazy. my FMIL wants to wear - and i am NOT kidding - a sequined MOO MOO!! its not funny!! she showed it to me today!!!

Jennifer

Oh my lord....I hope my FMIL isn't that bad!

Karacg Posted: Jul 24, 2004 09:37 PM

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Let them wear whatever they want.

Janine24 Posted: Jul 24, 2004 10:26 PM

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I wanted my mom to wear black... I think its such a classy color...

kimmie Posted: Jul 24, 2004 11:03 PM

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My mom is wearing black and I don't mind at all. The dress is georgous and she is comfortable in it and looks amazing .. I dont care what anyone says.

bluetank Posted: Jul 24, 2004 11:53 PM

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I would be honest with her and tell her the dress is nice, but why dont you get it in a color. The photographer said that the black is difficult to do with the pictures (who knows?) and that you want more color in the pictures. If she is in black and the tuxes are black, it might be too much. My mother ordered her dress today without me seeing it. I am scared.

Sunny Posted: Jul 25, 2004 12:54 AM

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I let my mother and fmil pick their own dresses, they both chose black.

IMO I think they should be able to wear whatever they want and are comfortable in.

newbie Posted: Jul 25, 2004 01:05 AM

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If she likes the dress, she should wear it. It just seems that, in the end, no one will remember what she wore anyway. She may not be very comfortable in choosing a dress and black is a safe color.

JodiBabe Posted: Jul 25, 2004 01:17 PM

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Posted by Sunny

I let my mother and fmil pick their own dresses, they both chose black.

IMO I think they should be able to wear whatever they want and are comfortable in.

Ditto except they chose different colors but I wouldn't have minded if they wore black.

Maribelle7777 Posted: Jul 25, 2004 01:21 PM

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If that's what she wants to wear, I wouldn't let it upset you. Maybe she's not into shimmery type dresses. She can always dress it up with a scarf or jacket or nice sparkly jewelry.

If you really feel like she's underdressed, then when you either go to see your dress or someone in your wedding party is going to a dress salon, ask her to go but just make it casual, not like you want her to buy a new dress. Maybe she'll find something else that will be more 'MOG-like'.

But if not, let it go, many other things to stress over, that should not be one of them!