FMIL keeping us out (VENT)

Okay first of all, my FILs are from out of town and do not know LI.
Now they are taking on the role of rehearsal dinner as tradition holds BUT my FMIL told my FH that we will know when and where the RD is AFTER she books it! Okay what if she picks a place that has horrible food but looks good on the outside to her? I know she will not call me for advice. Taht would just make too much sense!
And what if when she books this dinner what if the church says we have to have the rehearsal at a certain time and that is when her dinner is planned for. Why does this have to revolve around her ? IT IS MY WEDDING! I do not need control of everything but I do need to know what is going on. This is starting to sound like MY Big Fat Greek Wedding when the aunts just picked everything out for the bride!
AHHHHHHHHHHH
thanks for letting my complain!

Will they listen to FH? Maybe he can make sure they know how the time frame has to work with the Church.
Trying to be positive, maybe they want to surprise you guys with where the RD is?

Book the rehursal first and call her. If her dinner conflicts, then she's out a whole wad of money. And if the food stinks, she'll look like the idiot that didn't ask for recommendations.

I know that sounds rude, but seriously, if people are going to be that way (like your FMIL) - they have to face the consequences of what happens. If she books the restaurant the wrong time, then it's her responsibility to change it if it's during the rehursal. If she *****es about it, tell her 'hey the rehursal is the more important thing going on here'. The dinner is more to relax before the big day and as a thank you to the wedding party and the hosts of the wedding.

Otherwise tell her when the rehursal time is and give her some 'ideas' on places that are closeby (you can choose which ones you want to tell her of course).

id call her up and tell her you dont know yet when the rehersal is.... they do it on a specific day within a certain block of time(my church is on friday nights)...
if you ask her, shed probably be willing to tell you what place she wants to have it at...

FH needs to say something to them! She has to understand that you have a schedule to keep and must be kept in the loop. I can't believe that.
Try speaking to her calmly first. She has to see reason.