FMIL Rant - UPDATED!

My FMIL is officially driving me nuts. My sister (MOH) told me Friday night that where she wants to have the shower is not what she and my Matron of Honor were thinking. I was like, whattt?!?!? She's not supposed to be involved in planning the shower. My MOH and sister were planning it and I told FMIL this a while ago. A few weeks ago she asked me for a guest list for the shower. I told her my MOH would be in touch with her about it. Well, now she's just butting in and wants my shower to be at the same place we were looking into having the RD at. I'm so pissed! Number 1, she shouldn't just butt in! My MOH and sister want to plan my shower and she should just leave them alone and let them do what they want. Number 2, having it at the same place as the RD is so out of the question! She calls me constantly with stuff related to the wedding and I've just had it! It's my wedding darn it!

Ok, vent over. Thanks girls!


UPDATE: Well, I just called her because I was supposed to call her back from yesterday and was avoiding it. She is making my CPs as some of you know, and I gave her some pictures to give her more of an idea of what I want because she just wasn't getting it. Well, apparently we can't do what I want because it doesn't look right. I suggested maybe the vase was too narrow and that's why she didn't like the way it came out, but no, the white gardenia takes away from the white calla lilies and SHE doesn't like it! OMG! She then proceeds to tell me how she did her bouts for the guys. Like I effin care! And how I really should go with the idea of using only 1 limo because it saves money and I have to go look at the suite FFIL is getting us because they didn't like that I was paying for the room I wanted in Hauppauge. The sad thing is, she really has the best intentions, but the way she goes about doing things cause me to stress rather than appreciate the good thoughts she has.

Arg, make sure they let her know that they know you wouldnt be happy w/ having shower at same place as RH!

Uughh... I'm so sorry! That is so frustrating. I hope your girls will be able to stand up to her and explain that they will be handling the arrangements and appreciate her advice. Hopefully she will take the hint.

Edited due to my inability to type

how annoying!

UGH!!! I would definitely tell her that that's where you are having your RD. Be nice and just tell her that your MOH is taking care of the shower. She won't have to worry about a place. If all else fails, just have your MOH tell her that the decision was made and the invites will be out soon.

i just don;t understand people. why do fmil or moms family ect always have to but in. i am sorry that she is adding more stress on you.

i read these post everyday and i say i am soooo thankful i don;t have a mom who pushes and butts in my wedding planning. she gives me her opinion when i ask her. at the end of what she saying she always tells me its my day do how i want it to be.

for future in laws i am lucky to. my fh isn't that close with his dad or stepmom and his mom passed away 4 years ago. i get no grief from the out law side . i an soo thankful

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Posted by Snickers76

I remember you were also having issues with her about the flowers. It sounds like she's overbearing and won't back down unless someone tells her (nicely) that the shower is being planned by the BP. Good Luck!

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Yes, I was and still am having issues over the flowers! I updated my original post with these.