FMIL Super Rant!
I am so unbelievably disgusted by what things my FMIL has been saying lately that tonight I finally had enough and had to vent to people besides my FH who understand. But just so you know FH agrees completely with my feelings about this too. Sorry its long!
FH and I are going through a really hard time at the moment, our car is broken and as of right now in limbo as if it can be repaired or not. We're not sure if we're going to make this wedding now because of the costs, we're a one car family. When FH was venting to her on the phone last night because I literally had a mental melt down, and was pretty much catatonic for a good portion of it. He was on speaker phone with her and she kept suggesting we get a loan for a new car, he kept telling her we have bad credit and we can't even get approved for a dollar! The first words out of her mouth were 'What about the father?' .....what father...my father? My father who's done nothing but help FH and I since we started having issues early last year? My father who's been more of a dad to her son than his own father? What father..cuz i'm sure she can't possibly mean MY father. I mean if she was reffering to my father, I'm sure she would have used the terminolgy 'Dawn's Father'. Now I'm sure you're thinking I'm overreacting, and that it was a slip up...but she kept reffering to MY FATHER as 'the father' How insulting!!! So FH flat out told her, that my dad has helped us enough and that he didnt see anyone from his side jumping up at the chance to help us.
Now this is just the tip of the iceberg. FH was again on the phone with her tonight and again they were speaking about the issues we're having and again she kept reffering to my father as 'the father...' and telling him to ask my father for more help. What the hell is wrong with her? And when I told hubs to tell her to knock it off, she swears she was saying 'dawn's father'...uh no you weren't, you're on speakerphone! ARGH! (Fh's phone is broken so in order for him to talk to people, he's gotta use speaker phone and yes she knows this). I cant believe the audicty of her to even suggest my parents bail us out and not even to offer help herself.
NOW for the kicker. I have a very openminded family. I have 2 aunts who are lesbians and have partners. I love them and they're both coming to wedding, they're the coolest relatives! So knowing his family's behavior FH told his mother tonight about them and asked her to make sure that everyone was polite and keep their opinions to themselves at the wedding. This nasty beyotch had the NERVE to say 'omg that's disgusting she's got lesbians in her family ....its wrong... this is my belief and this is granny's belief this is why we left that church because they wanted to marry that gay couple...its gross... it goes against God' So now i'm really offended beause of her wording, I know some people arent as open minded about homosexuality as others and I was expecting a negative response FH just asked her to be polite, he didnt ask for her whole theory on the subject. So FH responds 'Well god says to love thy neighbor as you love thysel.' and 'If god has a plan for everyone...than that's his plan for them to be together.' He then goes on to say 'I'm asking you to be polite, they're her family and her family is close and I dont want anyone offended by stupidity.' Again I was expecting a negative response because she's set in her beliefs but this woman took it one step farther. She then replied ' Well don't worry we wont be speaking to the d*kes' ..........EXCUSE ME YOU INSENSITIVE COW?! At that response from her, FH is watching me about to blow up and start screaming, so he just hung up the phone. There was no need for that comment. I'm fuming and so insulted by this. How dare you make stupid comments about memebers of my family.
NOT ONCE did i blow up at his family for their belief's because they do a lot of things I disagree with.
Like they scrutinize FH for his entire life and everything he's messed up on...but his brothers are even bigger messes and yet in their eyes they're angels. Ones a druggie and the other is an *** who married an even bigger ***.
They're so quick to pass judgement on other people. I find it hard to believe that FH is actually related to them...he's gotta be adopted...HAS to be!!!
Where did this woman learn to speak to people...the zoo?
Sorry had to vent! Im really upset by this.
FH and I are going through a really hard time at the moment, our car is broken and as of right now in limbo as if it can be repaired or not. We're not sure if we're going to make this wedding now because of the costs, we're a one car family. When FH was venting to her on the phone last night because I literally had a mental melt down, and was pretty much catatonic for a good portion of it. He was on speaker phone with her and she kept suggesting we get a loan for a new car, he kept telling her we have bad credit and we can't even get approved for a dollar! The first words out of her mouth were 'What about the father?' .....what father...my father? My father who's done nothing but help FH and I since we started having issues early last year? My father who's been more of a dad to her son than his own father? What father..cuz i'm sure she can't possibly mean MY father. I mean if she was reffering to my father, I'm sure she would have used the terminolgy 'Dawn's Father'. Now I'm sure you're thinking I'm overreacting, and that it was a slip up...but she kept reffering to MY FATHER as 'the father' How insulting!!! So FH flat out told her, that my dad has helped us enough and that he didnt see anyone from his side jumping up at the chance to help us.
Now this is just the tip of the iceberg. FH was again on the phone with her tonight and again they were speaking about the issues we're having and again she kept reffering to my father as 'the father...' and telling him to ask my father for more help. What the hell is wrong with her? And when I told hubs to tell her to knock it off, she swears she was saying 'dawn's father'...uh no you weren't, you're on speakerphone! ARGH! (Fh's phone is broken so in order for him to talk to people, he's gotta use speaker phone and yes she knows this). I cant believe the audicty of her to even suggest my parents bail us out and not even to offer help herself.
NOW for the kicker. I have a very openminded family. I have 2 aunts who are lesbians and have partners. I love them and they're both coming to wedding, they're the coolest relatives! So knowing his family's behavior FH told his mother tonight about them and asked her to make sure that everyone was polite and keep their opinions to themselves at the wedding. This nasty beyotch had the NERVE to say 'omg that's disgusting she's got lesbians in her family ....its wrong... this is my belief and this is granny's belief this is why we left that church because they wanted to marry that gay couple...its gross... it goes against God' So now i'm really offended beause of her wording, I know some people arent as open minded about homosexuality as others and I was expecting a negative response FH just asked her to be polite, he didnt ask for her whole theory on the subject. So FH responds 'Well god says to love thy neighbor as you love thysel.' and 'If god has a plan for everyone...than that's his plan for them to be together.' He then goes on to say 'I'm asking you to be polite, they're her family and her family is close and I dont want anyone offended by stupidity.' Again I was expecting a negative response because she's set in her beliefs but this woman took it one step farther. She then replied ' Well don't worry we wont be speaking to the d*kes' ..........EXCUSE ME YOU INSENSITIVE COW?! At that response from her, FH is watching me about to blow up and start screaming, so he just hung up the phone. There was no need for that comment. I'm fuming and so insulted by this. How dare you make stupid comments about memebers of my family.
NOT ONCE did i blow up at his family for their belief's because they do a lot of things I disagree with.
Like they scrutinize FH for his entire life and everything he's messed up on...but his brothers are even bigger messes and yet in their eyes they're angels. Ones a druggie and the other is an *** who married an even bigger ***.
They're so quick to pass judgement on other people. I find it hard to believe that FH is actually related to them...he's gotta be adopted...HAS to be!!!
Where did this woman learn to speak to people...the zoo?
Sorry had to vent! Im really upset by this.
