FMIL troubles!

Oh No!! that is terrible! I would assign someone to watch her .. i dont think there really is much you can do unless you sit and talk to her


what did she do?

I have no idea...that is terrible...

I'm just glad my FMIL is so cool.

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Posted by jgl

Oh No!! that is terrible! I would assign someone to watch her .. i dont think there really is much you can do unless you sit and talk to her


what did she do?

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Well the short version is she's extremely selfish and needy. She never does anything for herself and expects people to take care of her (she does have some medical issues, and basically uses that to her advantage) But she is completely capable of handling every day things. Yet on the wedding day she had the groom driving around getting her stupid things like wonton soup. And she caused a HUGE scene at the rehearsal dinner that she hosted b/c she wanted to leave early. I felt so bad for the Bride and Groom.

Hows about a closet, a chair and duct tape???



I have a crazy FMIL also and i dont know what i am gonna do about her at the wedding! I am sure all of us who have crazy FILs will come up with something! good luck!

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Posted by akrasner

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Posted by jgl

Oh No!! that is terrible! I would assign someone to watch her .. i dont think there really is much you can do unless you sit and talk to her


what did she do?

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Well the short version is she's extremely selfish and needy. She never does anything for herself and expects people to take care of her (she does have some medical issues, and basically uses that to her advantage) But she is completely capable of handling every day things. Yet on the wedding day she had the groom driving around getting her stupid things like wonton soup. And she caused a HUGE scene at the rehearsal dinner that she hosted b/c she wanted to leave early. I felt so bad for the Bride and Groom.

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OMG are we getting married to the same person!! thats the same problem i am having!! she uses her medical problems to her advantage! even stops taking her meds so she feels suck and steve has to stay home!

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Posted by angl2001

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Posted by akrasner

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Posted by jgl

Oh No!! that is terrible! I would assign someone to watch her .. i dont think there really is much you can do unless you sit and talk to her


what did she do?

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Well the short version is she's extremely selfish and needy. She never does anything for herself and expects people to take care of her (she does have some medical issues, and basically uses that to her advantage) But she is completely capable of handling every day things. Yet on the wedding day she had the groom driving around getting her stupid things like wonton soup. And she caused a HUGE scene at the rehearsal dinner that she hosted b/c she wanted to leave early. I felt so bad for the Bride and Groom.

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OMG are we getting married to the same person!! thats the same problem i am having!! she uses her medical problems to her advantage! even stops taking her meds so she feels suck and steve has to stay home!

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OMG She's done that too! I have stories that could fill a Book...she's got some serious issues, and if she pulls any #^$@ on my day she is taking the first cab outta there!

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Posted by akrasner

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Posted by jgl

Oh No!! that is terrible! I would assign someone to watch her .. i dont think there really is much you can do unless you sit and talk to her


what did she do?

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Well the short version is she's extremely selfish and needy. She never does anything for herself and expects people to take care of her (she does have some medical issues, and basically uses that to her advantage) But she is completely capable of handling every day things. Yet on the wedding day she had the groom driving around getting her stupid things like wonton soup. And she caused a HUGE scene at the rehearsal dinner that she hosted b/c she wanted to leave early. I felt so bad for the Bride and Groom.

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that is very sad!!!! someone needs to put her in her place!!! they need to stop cattering to her as well.

I doubt talking to someone like that is going to work. Like i said, hire a babysitter to watch her all night!

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Posted by angl2001

Hows about a closet, a chair and duct tape???



I have a crazy FMIL also and i dont know what i am gonna do about her at the wedding! I am sure all of us who have crazy FILs will come up with something! good luck!

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Wow- I'm sorry, sems like you are gonna have your hands full. Has your FH tried to talk to her...or is that pointless??

Well if all else fails- try the closet and duct tame...haha

my mother in law makes the devil look like a saint.
she has gone out of her way to make our engagement a miserable experience.
I am sorry you are dealing with this.
I wish i had advice but there really isnt much YOU can do.
it sort of falls on your FH shoulders and his family to keep her in line.
i hope she doesnt cause too much trouble from now untill then.

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Posted by angl2001

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Posted by akrasner

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Posted by jgl

Oh No!! that is terrible! I would assign someone to watch her .. i dont think there really is much you can do unless you sit and talk to her


what did she do?

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Well the short version is she's extremely selfish and needy. She never does anything for herself and expects people to take care of her (she does have some medical issues, and basically uses that to her advantage) But she is completely capable of handling every day things. Yet on the wedding day she had the groom driving around getting her stupid things like wonton soup. And she caused a HUGE scene at the rehearsal dinner that she hosted b/c she wanted to leave early. I felt so bad for the Bride and Groom.

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OMG are we getting married to the same person!! thats the same problem i am having!! she uses her medical problems to her advantage! even stops taking her meds so she feels suck and steve has to stay home!

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I've got one of those too.... She is not happy unless everyone is miserable. Her new thing is that she can't walk around because her knee hurts and she has something wrong with her ankle... so she must be waited on hand and foot. Is your FMIL a quest in her own house? Mine is!!!! She throws a party and I do all the work - I'm lucky I get to sit down and eat. I do fear what she is going to do on the day of our wedding but I left it in my FH hands. It's his mother let him deal with her because he doesn't want me to have to.

I am so sorry to hear that your FMIL is such a pain.

The important question is....How does your FH react to her antics? Does he cater to her, ignore her, or put a stop to it? As long as he isn't giving into her every whim, then you'll be fine.

Good luck!

My FH basically ignores her. He's put up with her crap for about 30 years, so he just can't deal with her anymore. I told him he has to keep her in line, but it doesnt matter what people tell her...she listens to nobody!

Thanks for the advice everyone. I'll remember to pack duct tape in my bag that day!

All I can think of is the movie Monster in Law. Luckily once my FH moved out of the house FMIL became human again. I have 3 suggestions:
1- Talk to her and set her straight which may make it worse,
2-Kill her with kindness. Sugar her up. The day of or day before. Give her flowers with a nice card telling her how special she is and how lucky you are to have her as a FMIL. Maybe this will work for a while to make her feel special and take the spot light off her needs...
3- Bring the duct tape.!!!!!! GOOD LUCK