FMIL Vent!!!!

OK, So FH and I havent spoken to his mother since, I would say May of this year.. Bc every time she called, she just always had this neagtive energy that she brought with her.. For Example, his parents are divorced and his father remarried.. so when she calledd Larry she would always grill him for information about his father and the new wife.. She was always trying to get his father's new phone number since they moved to Florida and what not.. with me, if she couldn't get in touch with Larry, she would call me non stop.. and the last straw was when she called me at my job.. MY OWN MOTHER DOESN'T CALL ME AT WORK!!! So I told him this.. and when she finally annoyed Larry enough he told her not to call him anymore and not to call me bc it annoys me when she calls (not my choice of words, but it worked).. so she STOPPED calling altogether..

So my mom wants my shower list and I don't have his mother's address bc she's living in a house with the man she cheated on his father with and his mother!!! Yes, you read that correctly.. Don't ask, that's a whole other story for another day!!!

So I decide to call her and act like NOTHING has happened and here's how the conversation flowed...

Me: Hi
Her: Helllooooo
Me: Hiiiiiiii
Her: Who is this??
Me: It's your future daughter in law..
Her: Oh
Me: Oh?? that's all I get?????
Her: Well it's not like anyone calls me anymore:
Me: we've been really busy, I'm sorry
Her: No one calls me, I don't get invited anywhere
Me: (now mind you I was thinking about my shower, which hasn't happened yet, so this was my response)..

There wasn't anything to be invited to
Her: No one called me for Larry's Graduation.
(to this I had nothing to day... so she goes on...)
Well, I don't give a sh*t.. bc I am going to tell you what everyone tells me to do. F*CK OFF..


and then proceeds to hang up on me!!!

So, I am floored and hysterical laughing, bc that was the last reaction that I thought I was going to get and I called Larry's aunt (her sister) and his grandmother (her mother) and told them the whole story and they were shocked and both were like, 'Take her off the wedding list' to which I am, bc she will cause problems at the wedding and will probably show up in sweatpants bc she is a white trash wh0re...

but am I wrong to feel relieved?? Do you think I am evil?????

Thanks for letting me vent..

You just lifted a whole lotta weight and agrravation off your shoulders Day Day! The audasity of a parent to speak like that, whether it be to a FDIL, or their own child. YUCK!! Your better off without her there. You don't want her pickin up on any of the married men anyway I'd take it as a grain of salt. Over the shoulder and wish her luck, to not be sooooooooooo miserable. And remember this....she'll be missing out on THE most important day of her son's life, besides his graduation of course. But, then again, she could have found out where he was graduating, and attended. Just my thoughts. Love you, and am soooo happy you laughed at the end of that conversation. Comical I tell ya

I'm sorry-- She does sound CRAZY!! You're not a psycho. is your FH going to be ok with taking her off the list?

omg shes nuts...but i do think that maybe u should find out exactly how ur fh feels about not having her on a very important event in his life.....u dont want him to look back one day and be resentfull about it......i only say this bc i had alot of problems with my fmil and even though my fh supported me there were those times that we would talk and hed be so sad .....and beleive my fmil did some terrible things 'TO ME AND MY DUAGHTER' HER 1st grandchild.....but i realized that i only have to deal with her for an hour or two every few months he would of had to deal with it all the time bc it is his mom........i would leave it to ur fh to make that choice of taking her of the list....good luck and no ur not evil or wrong for feeling that way!!

I think that's really funny. Luckily for you, you don't have to deal with her. But what does Larry have to say about not having his mom at the wedding? If he's cool with it then you have just been nominated the luckiest FDIL alive!

What a @#$^^%&% !!!

OMG!!!!!!!!!! That is halarious! I would be happy to have her off my back. And know the ball is her court. You don't have to feel guilty about NOT inviting her anywhere. She did this to herself. I too, would feel relieved (spelling).

I cannot help but to
I am glad that you are taking her off the list because it seems like it will help make your day go a lot smoother. Don't even second guess it.

Sorry it took me so long to respond.... I was working alllll day and night at my 2nd job!!! lol

FH could care less if she was there.. he was the one to say, take her off the list.. and then when I called his grandmother (her mom) and his aunt (her sister) they both told me to take her off as well... Could you IMAGINE???? His mother doesn't even talk to anyone in her family, 1 bc they all hate her for cheating on his father with some low life loser, and 2, bc they know she is a lunatic..

it wouldn't have surprised me in the least if she caused a scene at the wedding with his father and his new wife.. My mom was prepared to physically take her out if that happened anyway.. But we are better off in the long run...

I know that I was the better person and made the effort to reach out only to get my head bitten off.. so be it.. dumb beotch!!!!!

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Posted by eunicsd006

omg shes nuts...but i do think that maybe u should find out exactly how ur fh feels about not having her on a very important event in his life.....u dont want him to look back one day and be resentfull about it......i only say this bc i had alot of problems with my fmil and even though my fh supported me there were those times that we would talk and hed be so sad .....and beleive my fmil did some terrible things 'TO ME AND MY DUAGHTER' HER 1st grandchild.....but i realized that i only have to deal with her for an hour or two every few months he would of had to deal with it all the time bc it is his mom........i would leave it to ur fh to make that choice of taking her of the list....good luck and no ur not evil or wrong for feeling that way!!

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She sounds totally nuts! HOWEVER.....and I'm telling you this b/c I learned the hard way......please talk to your FH and let him make this decision. I know people who have learned the hard way that while your fh is yours to keep, you can never say/do anything disparaging to his immediate family b/c they will ALWAYS be there......his mother and him will eventually make ammends (she is, after all, his mother).

As crazy as she sounds.......even if he agrees that shes nuts she is his mother after all and she is going to around a long time and you never want your husband to resent you for saying something bad about her.........just my peice of advice.

WOW this woman sounds like she really has some issues. Maybe u are better off just taking her off the list, especially since FH doesnt care. It seems like evryine knows that she is kinda 'off'.

I kinda feel bad for people like that. Maybe someone should recomend that she gets help instead of just shun her.

I don't think your evil sh sounds like my FMIL FH didn't even want to tell he we were engaed bevcause of the negitve energy like u say... but she found out through the grapevine of course FH doesnt even want to ivite her to wedding... fine by me Save $100 on that

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I totally agree with you. If both you and Larry decided that this is how you want it then so be it. I would be worried that she would ruin my wedding.

If both you and Larry feel that she is going to ruin your life, then you are not wrong or evil whatsoever. Sorry that you are going through this. .

wow, crazy situation!!!! Don't feel bad sweetie, just go ahead with your plans and leave her out!!!
XOXOXO
Kitty

im so confused
i thought this was your FMIL - but you said she cheated on his mother??

Completely agree with you! SHe is nuts! And you have a better head on your shoulders for not going off on her-I would have called her back and tore @ss thru her without a doubt.
I think youare abetter off without her-she would definitely cause some kind of scene and you dont need that.
I dont think you are evil at all-you have every right to be relieved-she did it to herself

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Posted by beeinsilly

im so confused
i thought this was your FMIL - but you said she cheated on his mother??

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No.. she cheated on his father.. it was 2:41am when I posted my update!!! I may have been delirious when I typed my update!!!!



So tonight, I had dinner with FH's family while he was working and they all laughed with me and think it's better for her not to come!!! but they all said that when I enter the church to lock the doors behind me just in case!!!!