FMIL Vent!!!

Betty Posted: Jan 14, 2003 09:54 AM

FMIL Vent!!!

OK first it started with the invitations...We got pretty ones with a lavender rose..she thought they should be plain black and white.

I told her the other day about our favors. We are having an organza bag filled with hershey kisses and a note attatached thanking everyone for being there and stating that in lieu of favors a donation was made to the American Cancer Assoc in memory of (FH father). When I told her the idea she liked it. Well, yesterday FH tells me that she doesn't think that will be enough to give our guests. We thought about doing something else but we wanted to save money and thought this was a good way to honor his father (Fh likes the idea).....HELLO it was HER husband

I think she just likes to complain about ANYTHING and drive FH crazy!!!!!!!!!!

Thanks for letting me vent UUUGGGGGGGGGG

Ronnie&Theresa Posted: Jan 14, 2003 09:57 AM

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Ugh.. I think she should be honored and MIND HER BUSINESS!!

to you.. FMIL's are sometimes such a pain!

Betty Posted: Jan 14, 2003 09:59 AM

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Thanks...I know I think my FMIL might win the pain in the a$$ of the century!!!!!

Valenia Posted: Jan 14, 2003 10:02 AM

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How aggravating. Aren't negative people such a pleasure?

sept20yay! Posted: Jan 14, 2003 10:10 AM

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I have a headache just listening to this. I'm so sorry.

WishCandy Posted: Jan 14, 2003 10:26 AM

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I think you shouldn't let her in on any of your ideas... because it will only aggrivate you. Some people like my fmil - lives, just LIVES to find something wrong in everything... even if it was her idea to begin with.
Sometimes, you just have to let the crazies be crazy by themselves and ignore them.

tracyg Posted: Jan 14, 2003 10:39 AM

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yes, my FMIL is very similar, but she doesn't do it in a mean way. She just has to question everything, like how can she have a bad idea?? when i said what song i was goign to use for processional (not here comes the bride)... 'why, everyone uses that song? blah blah'... 'How about this idea for a hall?' me-'no, don't like it'. Her- 'why not? whats wrong with it..etc' She doesn't do it in a mean way, but its freaking annoying!!! Don't question my decisions,, and when i say NO, it means NO, don't ask me why!!
FH and I had a big fight about this... finally he agreed to say something next time she does it. I don't mind suggestions, but don't question me when i reject it!!!! YOU'RE NOT PAYING FOR IT!!

So I'm not going to discuss details around her anymore.

Betty Posted: Jan 14, 2003 10:48 AM

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Thanks everyone for your support

I agree...it's unfortunate but I don't want to tell her anything anymore!!! Luckily she doesn't say this stuff to me but she drives FH crazy!!(she doesn't say it to be mean she is just opinionated and doesn't know when to keep it to herself)

My mom and sister just keep saying it's YOUR wedding do what You want but I hate her putting bad ideas in our heads.

Thanks again

tarakinspa Posted: Jan 14, 2003 11:11 AM

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MIL never know when to back off! Do what you want, I think it is a nice gesture and if you and FH both like it then dont worry about it, opinions are fine to give but they dont have to change anything.
Good Luck!

NovemberSue Posted: Jan 14, 2003 11:15 AM

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Try not to tell her anything you are doing.If she asks you can say that you aren't sure yet.She can't complain then.

Sassy Posted: Jan 14, 2003 11:43 AM

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What the heck is going on these days? It seems as we get closer to our weddings, everyone decides to get on our nerves

Betty, don't worry about her, your favor is perfect the way it is.
She better bless her lucky stars she's getting such a sweet DIL

jennbaby Posted: Jan 14, 2003 12:09 PM

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Betty,
I am one for giving favors a guest can actually use and keep and really enjoy, instead of something that gets thrown aside or in a drawer somewhere, however.....I think donations are the best & most wonderful thing a married couple can do. I think your idea is beautiful!
Ignore her, she is losing her son to you, she's jealous

Betty Posted: Jan 14, 2003 12:36 PM

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Thank you all for making me feel so much better (as always!!) Thank you Liz..I think I will be a good FDIL. My FH was engaged before and I can tell you he would DEFINATELY be divorced by now (and BROKE) I treat him and her so well(FH says it all the time) you would think she would leave us alone and be HAPPY!!!

Ronnie&Theresa Posted: Jan 14, 2003 12:40 PM

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My FMIL knows how I feel about her YET every chance she gets she tries to work my nerves..

I tolerate none of her sh**.. I don't care who she is...

But she has been TRYING hard to make me happy..

She gave me about 50 pics from Ronnie's childhood and her wedding days...

So I take everyday slow with her!!!

Betty TELL HER BACK OFF!!

Betty Posted: Jan 14, 2003 12:52 PM

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The funny thing is she doesn't say ANYTHING to me!!! She just complains to him (which makes me feel bad) He then feels bad to tell me b/c he knows it hurts me so he holds it all inside!! She's sooo nice to me..really she is nice she just has opinions and ALWAYS thinks they are right. I just can't wait until he gets out of that house

WishCandy Posted: Jan 14, 2003 01:07 PM

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You're so lucky that she only complains to your fh! Mine feels it's her duty to be a pain in the @ss to the both of us, ESPECIALLY when she has an audience.