FMIL vent masked with a Shower Question....
So my mother has been bugging me for a list for my shower... my FMIL keeps saying don't invite anyone from her side because they're not going to come except her and FBIL's fiance.... at that very second I was like HIT THE EFFING BREAKS LADY.... you want to sound crazy and tell me not to bother inviting anyone fine... but WHY IN GOD'S NAME WOULD I INVITE FBIL's FIANCE??? 1) I HATE FBIL with a passion, 2) I have never met/spoken to his FW, and 3) Why would I want someone at my shower who has shown me and my wedding no consideration by making sure her wedding/shower to FBIL who she has known for 4 months now all happens before ours????
I told FMIL I didn't have any intentions of inviting her and the woman threw a fit. She told me I was being ridiculous for being upset at FBIL and it's not written anywhere that he should have waited until after us and Rachelle is the nicest person she has ever met (riiiiiiight) and she expects to see me at Rachelle's shower (sorry not driving down to DC for a bridal shower for someone I don't know).
So at this point I don't want either of them there. I never had any intentions of inviting her to my shower to begin with and even less of attending hers if invited. I wrote FMIL a LONG email explaining why and telling her that most people don't need something carved in stone to know it's rude or inconsiderate.... and then (I was feeling ballsy) told her about all of the things she has done to hurt/insult me or FH since we started dating... surprisingly enough I never heard back from her...
But was I wrong for telling her I wasn't inviting FBIL's FW???? If you were told not to invite anyone from FH's side because they won't care to make the trip for your shower but ordered to invite the one person you DON'T KNOW and really don't care about would you have done it????? I don't even want FMIL at my shower... she's so mean and always makes me miserable. I want to enjoy my shower and I really don't think that will happen with her being there...
I told FMIL I didn't have any intentions of inviting her and the woman threw a fit. She told me I was being ridiculous for being upset at FBIL and it's not written anywhere that he should have waited until after us and Rachelle is the nicest person she has ever met (riiiiiiight) and she expects to see me at Rachelle's shower (sorry not driving down to DC for a bridal shower for someone I don't know).
So at this point I don't want either of them there. I never had any intentions of inviting her to my shower to begin with and even less of attending hers if invited. I wrote FMIL a LONG email explaining why and telling her that most people don't need something carved in stone to know it's rude or inconsiderate.... and then (I was feeling ballsy) told her about all of the things she has done to hurt/insult me or FH since we started dating... surprisingly enough I never heard back from her...
But was I wrong for telling her I wasn't inviting FBIL's FW???? If you were told not to invite anyone from FH's side because they won't care to make the trip for your shower but ordered to invite the one person you DON'T KNOW and really don't care about would you have done it????? I don't even want FMIL at my shower... she's so mean and always makes me miserable. I want to enjoy my shower and I really don't think that will happen with her being there...
