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FMIL VENT---surprise

amandamichael Posted:

FMIL VENT---surprise

so i knew her being nice couldnt last too long-- a whole weekkk whooo hoooooo

so listen to this, tell me im insane or something

fh and i slept on his parents boat friday night bc he wanted to go out on the boat early saturday morning, so i agreed, and it was fine, i hadnt seen them in a week whatever, she was all nice, everytyhing was fine la la---- yesterday morning we get up, and no one is there, so we took dinner out to bbq before we left so there wasnt frozen food for dinner

so i told fh if your mom calls, tell her were out on the water and we took out dinner but therse no sides, just meat if she wants to pick smething up-- so he did...nothing wrong with that right?

well she went offfffffffff that f me and i have some nerve and *** am i doing on her boat and im a trouble maker--- haha i laughd---- i took dinner out for your family and im a trouble maker?
i let it go, until i heard fh repeat something about my mom--- mind you, my mom hasnt gotten involved in this at all, nothing, she says nothing, she doesnt do anything, shes nice to everyone, so really leave her alone

so i got on the phone to ask what her problem waws, and she yelled and screamed some more that im her problem---haha, of course i am

so i just told her, ya know, you dont have to like me, you dnt have to want to be around me, were not getting married, me and your son are, 7 months from now whether you like it or not, so you can be like this, thats fine, but really, the only one in this that looses is you, bc you have put him in a corner where he has to deciede, and im sorry, but it seems to be like he made a decision. so go ahead and scream but youll just end up by yourself, there is not breaking our relationship, and its not bc im controling him, but its bc your son loves me and you just have to accept that. so do whatever you need to do, but there is only so many tims you get to tell me off, before its my turn

she hung up of course
her and fh had words and he told her to stay out of our life and that he wnated nothing to do with her

of course she blames me, that ive always wanted to take her son away from her

haha
its insanityy girls
i just feel bad for FH
its cant be a happy place to be

maybe shes mad bc he moved out, and of course its ezier to blame me for your son wantning to leave than it is to accept that he left

its just hard, the constant ********, i just dont wanna be around it....

ok vent over

dont think im crazy fgirls, i just have to venttttt , all of you girls have rather normal fmils and i have the devil

someone help me
angelabarra12 Posted:

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ahhh wow!!! that must be hard for ur fh!! but it seems like yo did nothing wrong but fall in love with her son and apparently thats not working for her! if it was u or sme other girl its the fact that its her son! but she should be looking at it as gaining a daughter and not loosing a son!!
i know what ur going through though its not easy! because you of course dont want it to be like this who would!! ahh dont stress hopefully just pray she'll get over this!!!
amandamichael Posted:

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yea but theres the thing
i feel like for me, enough is enough, theres no going back, you only get to tell someone off so many times before they walk away ya know?
Andelano Posted:

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i totally feeel your pain.....and i am sorry......my FMIL is not normal......at all.

vent vent and keep venting....its personal maintenance...so what u gotta do...we r here for ya girl...
angelabarra12 Posted:

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yeaa i def get you!!! and then you know what that stinks for her because she could have had a great daughter in law but she chose to make it this way! you've done all you can she'll wake up one day and realize that

Andelano Posted:

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u are exactly right. and it stinks. and its hard.. and you feel bad for the FH. its breaks my heart for them. but i try to remember tat no matter how hard we try, its not us that do it that make these situations occur......we can only do so much....

of course you would be a FABULOUS DIL....and it is her loss....and one day she will realize that and hopefully it wont be tooo late
rendel Posted:

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Im so sorry, but we all new she couldn't be civil for long!!!!!! I would have been scared straight sleeping on the same boat as her!!!! Did you sleep with 1 eye open? Seriously she needs to cut the cord and I can so relate!!!!!!

Neeks Posted:

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wow... Thats not nice and Im sure its really hard... was her a mommas boy before? she is probably just having an extremelyyyyyyyyyy hard time letting go and is taking it out on you which is not fair. So sorry you have to go through this

monkeemunk Posted:

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I don't have personal experience but a few friends who went/going thru this...just hang in there nd remeber its ur marriage not hers...she's only going to be the one left out in the end. And if fh I on ur side than u have backup and nothin to worry about

angelscri Posted:

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Posted by monkeemunk

I don't have personal experience but a few friends who went/going thru this...just hang in there nd remeber its ur marriage not hers...she's only going to be the one left out in the end. And if fh I on ur side than u have backup and nothin to worry about



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LoveyDovey Posted:

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ugh why are these FMIL's soooo jealous!

cut the cord already!!!


sorry hun!
J79 Posted:

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I know EXACTLY what you're going through. Minus the whole shoes being held hostage thing

In fact FH is having a 'sit down' with ffmil as I type this!!!!!
Ray8183 Posted:

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chreesta Posted:

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How dare you try to plan a nice dinner!

I'm sorry that you have to deal with this. Know that she is crazy and it has nothing to do with you!
allornil Posted:

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She really needs some prozac. Slip some into her koolaid when shes not looking!

Honestly shes demented. Thats one unhealthy relationship she has w FH. All shes doing is forcing him to cut any ties he has with her.

Psycho much?
Im getting Married Posted:

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Holy crap..sorry you're dealing with this

I don't have personal experience with a psycho FMIL but I would definately have a hard time controlling myself

Hang in there
Jennielee15 Posted:

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Please know you are not alone! My FMIL is a doozy as well! Speaking of devils she told me I was the devil and that I was ruining her sons life. Now this was in November and FH and I almost split because of it. Mind you I am a very easy going person who has never been hated by anyone. Not to toot my own horn, but I'm really the perfect DIL! I am always there to please and try to do whatever it is people want. She is super crazy but I have learned to ignore her and FH has pretty much made it clear that I am with him forever so she needs to choose me or no him! haha! SO I am now happily engaged with a FMIL who pretends to like me and we just get along enough to make FH happy!

P.S. She lives next door!!!!
jcaramelprincess Posted:

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wow, so sad...she's gonna regret being so mean to you!!! she has issues
amandamichael Posted:

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thanks girlsss

fh and i spent the day moving into our new space
it feels so nice to know were not there anymore

im just so sick of the drama
for FH sake

its insane how crazy this woman is
i get hes your son and you love him
but let him go before you loose him
i mean really, that cant be that hard of a concept, can it?
J79 Posted:

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Posted by amandamichael

thanks girlsss

fh and i spent the day moving into our new space
it feels so nice to know were not there anymore

im just so sick of the drama
for FH sake

its insane how crazy this woman is
i get hes your son and you love him
but let him go before you loose him
i mean really, that cant be that hard of a concept, can it?



for some FFMIL's, yes it is. mine being one! easier said than done, but try to stay clear and keep the peace. ignore. at the end of the day this whole theatrics thing will backfire in her face bc she'll lose her son....and eventually grandchildren

she will get her wakeup call

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