FMIL vent...AGAIN!!!!

A week or two ago I posted a vent that FMIL complained about the color dress I wanted her to wear and how it was an unflattering color that she will not be happy in...and that color was black. FH told FMIL he wanted her in black so she ended up agreeing to it. I sent an email out to FMIL, my mother and my bridal party about dresses and in bold i wrote the dresses need to be LONG and BLACK. Well FMIL went dress shopping and got a SHORT black dress!!! FH showed me a pic and it looks casual...i am hoping that their is beadwork or some detail to dress it up bc in the photo it looks like a short black cocktail dress.

I decided not to say anything to her bc she obvi decided to ignore me so why bring it up. am i wrong to be pissed...fh tells me i am overreacting and i want to kill him!!! i think im more annoyed that she ignored me then anything but still its a sat night wedding and it is your son...get dressed up! UGHHHHH

I understand where you're coming from...my FMIL went with a venue that was on the southshore for our rehearsal dinner when I said I'd prefer to stay on the northshore because it's closer to the church....but what can I do?
Honestly, it's not worth you getting agravated over and it's your FH's place to say something because it's HIS mom. I agree that am short black dress isn't appropriate especially for the mother of the groom, but again not your place to say something. Try to talk to him rationally and see if he'll say something, if not, just remember she'll look silly in a black cocktail dress!

I completely understand how you're feeling but look at it this way. No matter what she does it's HER who looks silly, not YOU. I love my FMIL but she certainly has her own ideas when it comes to our wedding. She bought a purple beaded dress with a plunging neckline and has been thinking about dying her hair eggplant so that it will 'match'. She is also surprising FFIL with their own dance. Wants the dance floor cleared for them and everything. So I said okay knowing that she will be the one who looks silly, not me.

If it's any consolation, she won't be in the pictures you and FH have hanging on your walls. Down the road she'll see your album and say 'oh my gosh, I looked rediculous.' And you can say 'yes mom, but it was YOUR idea, not mine.'

hahah thanks ladies you are right! i need to laugh it off and realize in the end she will look like the fool and not me!
FH def wont say anything to her so i will accept it and just hope she feels like an a** in the end lol

thank you ladies for sharing! i know hearing other stories about strange FMILs makes me feel better. At least I know its not personal...they are all just crazy

isn't black flattering on everyone? my mom would kill me if I said she couldn't wear black lol. it's just the color that makes anyone look good and skinnier. I still keep joking that I wish I could wear a black dress instead of white.

well if you are getting married when it's cold her legs will be freezing when no one else will plus she's the one who will look out of place while everyone is more dressy.

I wouldn't worry about it.

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Posted by KatiNoE

I completely understand how you're feeling but look at it this way. No matter what she does it's HER who looks silly, not YOU. I love my FMIL but she certainly has her own ideas when it comes to our wedding. She bought a purple beaded dress with a plunging neckline and has been thinking about dying her hair eggplant so that it will 'match'. She is also surprising FFIL with their own dance. Wants the dance floor cleared for them and everything. So I said okay knowing that she will be the one who looks silly, not me.

If it's any consolation, she won't be in the pictures you and FH have hanging on your walls. Down the road she'll see your album and say 'oh my gosh, I looked rediculous.' And you can say 'yes mom, but it was YOUR idea, not mine.'

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you are so nice to do that lol. I would say hell no to that. it wouldn't even be a have to think about it situation lol. clearing the dance floor for them to do a special dance at your wedding? I'd be like this is our wedding not yours lol. but that's just me.

I kind of agree with you on this one..
I was getting annoyed at my FMIL.
She did ask what colors I preferred and I said anything black or silver. I would be annoyed if she ended up dressing casual or went against the color.

She keeps saying shes not in the bridal party.. but she is still in the pictures with everyone and I would want her to coordinate.

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Posted by poisonivy918

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Posted by KatiNoE

I completely understand how you're feeling but look at it this way. No matter what she does it's HER who looks silly, not YOU. I love my FMIL but she certainly has her own ideas when it comes to our wedding. She bought a purple beaded dress with a plunging neckline and has been thinking about dying her hair eggplant so that it will 'match'. She is also surprising FFIL with their own dance. Wants the dance floor cleared for them and everything. So I said okay knowing that she will be the one who looks silly, not me.

If it's any consolation, she won't be in the pictures you and FH have hanging on your walls. Down the road she'll see your album and say 'oh my gosh, I looked rediculous.' And you can say 'yes mom, but it was YOUR idea, not mine.'

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you are so nice to do that lol. I would say hell no to that. it wouldn't even be a have to think about it situation lol. clearing the dance floor for them to do a special dance at your wedding? I'd be like this is our wedding not yours lol. but that's just me.

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Haha, well my inside voice said something to that effect but when it comes down to it I figure it's three minutes when I can go to the bathroom and not be center of attention. She and her cleavage and purple hair can have their moment. I don't mind giving up the attention. It just bothers me that she thinks it's okay to ask. Not my job to teach her manners though.