AHH! She annoyed me so bad in the beginning...I took it becuase I know she was excited..had to come to every appointmetn we had at every hall and add her opinion in on everything! My FH told her she need to calm down a little and let us enjoy it jsut the two of us for a while...she did and has been fine since.
Then she annoyed me with the money thing. My dad is paying for our hall...and hyis parents aren't adding in anything! In the beginning we were looking at 2 halls...the first one about what he said he would pay..then we found another we loved but it was a few thousand more..and she basically offered up my dad's money saying I could get him to pay it...which I thought was totally rude! Who is she to say it's no big deal my dad can pay a few thousand more when she was offereing us nothing?? So anyway....she said that she was going to pay for a bus to take the guests to and from teh hotel to teh reception. She heard from someone it was $250....seh called and they told her it was $400 and now she says it's too much money so she's not getting it...yet they just went on vacation for 4 days to atlantic city...if she has the money to spend there for 4 days....how does she not have an extra $150 to spend for our wedding when she promised she would??? Tehn my dad said if she doesnt' pay he will bc he wants our wedding to be perfect but I said no bc he is already being way too generous!!! Grr!!!! HOpefully FH can talk to her and tell her that it is not fair she promised this to us then takes it back.....
Sorry...jsut had to vent a little bit!!!!
FutureMrsSabbagh
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Your father sounds like a very generous man! Any idea what song is going to be your father/daughter dance?
Kristen29
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Not yet..I'm having trouble with that !!!! I want to pick something very special...My mom passed away a year and a half ago...and it's been so hard on both of us...we were never really very close before...but when she got sick we became really close, and have a great relationship today (which I wish would have started sooner)...so I want to pick something wonderful because I know it will be a hard day for both of us!! Any ideas??
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Why is she the one going to everything and so involved meanwhile your dad is paying and she can't even put in $400 that she promised for the bus. Next time she wants to come along or something say sorry we're going with my dad, since he is paying for this I figured he should be involved.
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aww cheer up im sure if your FH talks to her about it shell come to her senses.
ama1771
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your dad sounds like an amazing man. sorry to hear about your fmil issues. i can definitely relate.
my daddy and i are dancing to butterfly kisses, as i told him the first day i heard that song that i would dance with him to that one day. that was the first time i ever saw my dad cry
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My father and I didn't speak for years; but we have a wonderful relationship now. I'm glad we only missed a few years than a life time.
I don't know either, I was thinking of a Bocelli song.
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I hate to say it ... but when you rely on other people to pick up the tabs for even part of your wedding you are at their mercy....
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I hate to say it ... but when you rely on other people to pick up the tabs for even part of your wedding you are at their mercy....
Yeah but her FMIL isn't paying for anything.
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i totally agree with the person who said that your dad should go instead of her since he's paying.
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You dad sounds like he is a great dad. Congrats on that and I can understand your frustration with your fmil, were does she get the nerve. Hang in there
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yeah we knew she wasn't paying for anything so we weren't relying on her for anything...but then when my dad said he was paying for the hall..she came out and said she would pay for the buses (it seemed like she felt bad at that point)...me and FH said we would have no problem paying but seh said she wanted to....now all the sudden itt's too much money for her...so we're gonna end up paying for it anyway....the money thing isn't a big deal we can afford it...it was just the point that she is like taking control of the wedding and isn't contributing anything to it except for her unwanted opinions!!
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And thanks!!! Yes I am very lucky to have my dad!!!
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I hate to say it ... but when you rely on other people to pick up the tabs for even part of your wedding you are at their mercy....
Yeah but her FMIL isn't paying for anything.
She offered to pay for the shuttle, no? Did I misunderstand?
I totally don't think it is cool that she offered up her dad's money to pay for the extra hall though....
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Then you need to not include her in all the decision making and meetings with the vendors.
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I hate to say it ... but when you rely on other people to pick up the tabs for even part of your wedding you are at their mercy....
Yeah but her FMIL isn't paying for anything.
She offered to pay for the shuttle, no? Did I misunderstand?
I totally don't think it is cool that she offered up her dad's money to pay for the extra hall though....
Yeah she offered to pay but then turned around and said she wont. Also, even if she was going to pay for the buses, then that is all she would have say in, doesn't give her any right to have any say about the reception.
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im sorry dont worry my FMIL is exactly liek that...but even worse
